Aging Ain’t Easy – But It Can Be Fun

by Linda Franklin

Sixty Really Isn't The New 40 by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDo you sometimes catch a glimpse of yourself as you walk by a store window and ask yourself – who is that woman?  She looks familiar but you’re not quite sure who she is.  Then reality takes a big bite out of your ego  because that woman looking back at you is YOU.

Aging ain’t easy – it takes a lot of effort to do it successfully.  But as I like to say, the juice is well worth the sqeeze.

As I get older,  I find the disparity between how I feel on the inside and how I look on the outside grows ever greater.   Gravity is definitely having its way with me and I don’t like it.

It’s scary heading for senior status in a society that places such a premium on youth.  Women over 60 complain how they become invisible, — unless, of course, they happen to be Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda or Helen Mirren.

Each of us  has to decide what’s right for us in everything we do and that includes aging.  Do you succumb to or do you everything in your power to hold back the clock?

Unlike our mothers’ and grandmother’s generation, there’s no one way to present  yourself as a 60-plus woman today.  We have so many options in the way we dress, how we spend our leisure time, how we take care of our face and our bodies and last but certainly not least, how we keep our spiritual reservoir full.

The majority of women I know who are 60 and above are still working.  Many of them because they choose to – many because they have to.  With the economy the way it is, extending the earning years is a harsh reality and woman need to think about how much they will need to take care of their needs going forward.

It’s interesting too that the divorce rate of folks 60-plus has increased.  Starting over no matter how old you are, is becoming increasingly common. Fifty and sixty somethings are busy exploring on-line dating, with many discovering finding a new love interest is no easy task.

The   bottom line is you really are as young as you feel.  It’s never too late for new fun adventures so go out, take a chance and embrace change because it’s going to happen whether you like it or not.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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Fran Drescher – Happily Divorced by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

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Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar Woman loves Fran Drescher and she is back in a new series tonight on TV Land.  I must have watched every episode of The Nanny a gazillion times, so I am hoping Fran's new show is a big hit. Happily Divorced is based on Fran's own life experience and she says this is how the show was conceived.

“When TV Land asked me to meet with them about developing a new television series, I came with a bunch of ideas. And they said, ‘What would be an idea if you were to star in it?’ — which is not what I was thinking when I took the meeting. And I said, ‘Oh, well that’s easy. It would have to be the story of how my gay ex-husband and I have become best friends, and he helps me, you know, with my relationship problems with my boyfriends.’ And I said, ‘Now, do you wanna hear the shows that I brought?’ And they said, ‘Why? We just bought that one.’ So that was the beginning of ‘Happily Divorced.’ And I called Peter immediately and said, ‘I just sold an idea, and I want you to be my partner on it.”

So basically it's your average relationship story  – boy meets girl,  they marry, he turns out to be gay, they divorce but he can’t afford to move out, so…they still live together while BOTH re-entering the dating pools.  Make sense?

Here's a preview.  

Cougars Love Blazing New Trails

Cougar couple 3 Every day I get emails from Real Cougars who are blazing new trails.  Their stories provide me with my daily dose of inspiration.  Here's one of those stories – one that many women will find all too familiar.
 
Linda, I just wanted to thank you so much for what you are doing.  I am reading your book now and I love the stories of women who have risen above and are helping other women.
 
I just got out of an 8 year relationship that headed down  dead end street.  He was 50, I am 45.  Leaving was one of the hardest things I have ever done, which is amazing because I have accomplished so much professionally, however personally I was a wreck.
 
I have worked hard and built up a successful financial services and CPA firm.  I did this while living in this very lonely relationship with a very controlling man.  Because of the stress at home I had put on 45 pounds and was miserable.  Finally I went to see a counselor who advised me to call it quits and I did.  Prior to that I went through eight breakups but always went back.  This time I worked through the fear and started down a new path. 
 
Your insightful comments about relationships in Don't Ever Call Me Ma'am really hit home.  It was after that I got out and put myself on Match.com and PerfectMatch.com.  After a few dates with older men I wanted to stab myself with a fork because they were so boring. I finally agreed to meet a 35 year old.  I can not tell you how much fun I had.  Younger men are definitely for me.
 
I found your website at the beginning of this journey and ordered your book.  I only wish I would have done this sooner.  I am having the time of my life.  I have lost 20 pounds so far and am on my way to loosing the rest.
 
Thanks again for all you are doing.  I look forward to continuing this journey with you and the other wonderful cougars.!
 
Eileen, thank you for sharing your story will all of us.