Viagara For Women – Not Sure About That

Viagara For Women - Not Sure About That Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanTrying to understand female sexuality is becoming a mainstream issue, and that’s a good thing.
Sunday’s New York Times Magazine section had an interesting article on why so many women are struggling  with the loss of their sexual excitement.  You can access  the full article here or read the gist of it below. 
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Center for Sexual Medicine at Sheppard Pratt in the suburbs of Baltimore women are participating in a new study.  The women chosen are either married or in committed relationships.  When they’re finish answering a series of  questions on their sex life they are given a round of pills.

The pills were either a placebo or a new drug called Lybrido, created to stoke sexual desire in women. The women are  supposed to take the tablets before having sex, and for every time she puts a pill on her tongue, she was supposed to make an entry in her online diary about her level of lust.

The promise of Lybrido and of a similar medication called Lybridos, which Tuiten also has in trials, or of whatever chemical finally wins the race for F.D.A. approval, is that it will be possible to take a next step, to give women the power to switch on lust, to free desire from the obstacles that get in its way. “Female Viagra” is the way drugs like Lybrido and Lybridos tend to be discussed. But this is a misconception. Viagra meddles with the arteries; it causes physical shifts that allow the penis to rise. A female-desire drug would be something else. It would adjust the primal and executive regions of the brain. It would reach into the psyche.

For many women  the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be monogamy itself.  There are so many factors involved so reading the full article is suggested.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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Opening Up About What You Need Sexually

by Linda Franklin

Opening Up About What You Need Sexually  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanWomen know what they need to be sexually fulfilled but they are not good about communicating that information to their man.

If you were totally honest about what turns you on, what would you be sharing with your partner?

Here’s what some woman have said:

 

 

  • ‘It takes me longer to orgasm than you – don’t rush me’

    In order to feel like sex, I need to be emotionally turned on, as well as physically stimulated.

  • Words are aphrodisiacs to me. If you want more sex, talk to me more.
  • The more housework you do, the more I will feel like sex. I’ll be less tired and will feel more like an equal partner than a slave.
  • I also want to initiate sex but I don’t have time to work up an appetite if you make a move on me daily.
  • It takes me longer to orgasm than you and it’s more difficult. Don’t rush me.
  • Be gentler. My skin is thinner and more sensitive than yours. What feels normal to you, often hurts me.
  • Don’t assume I only want romantic sex. I’m also up for wilder, lustier sex now and then.
  • Don’t hassle me for sex after I’ve said no. It makes me feel unsexy, rather than turned on.
  • Accept that I’m probably not going to orgasm purely through intercourse. I need clitoral stimulation.. This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy intercourse, it’s just the way my body is designed.

If you’re not getting what you need to be sexually satisfied – try asking for it.  Any man worth his salt will appreciate your input.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Better Orgasms – Start Early

by Linda Franklin

Better Orgasms - Start Early Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman Female orgasm is something we don’t talk enough about.  So, to help young women and men understand it’s complexities The University of Minnesota is spending $3,400 to host a symposium this spring specifically designed to help its female undergraduate students achieve bigger, better and more orgasms.

‘Orgasm aficionados and beginners of all genders are welcome to come learn about everything from multiple orgasms to that mysterious G-spot,’ reads the description posted on the school’s official events calendar.

‘Are you coming?’ it asks.

The university’s official online description of the event entitled, ‘The Female Orgasm,’ describes it as open to both male and female students, according to Campus Reform.

While the average age of undergraduates at the University is 21, it is not uncommon for students to enroll at the age of 17.

‘This educational workshop is open to the full university community and participation is voluntary,’ she said. ‘As a research institution, we study, publish and educate on a vast range of topics, including human sexuality.’

In my opinion, this is a big step forward for women. The more open we can be about female sexuality the better.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sex No No’s That Take Away The Fun

by Linda Franklin

Sex No No's That Take Away The Fun Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanIt’s not just men who need help when it comes to pleasing women in the bedroom.  Women have to connect to their own sexuality and push away some of the no no’s that have been getting in the way of our pleasure.  

What are some of those myths than need to be debunked?  Here’s the shortlist:-

  • Men are like a light switch, either they are turned on or off
  • Men get turned on without you even trying.  Maybe that’s true if the guy’s 22, but beyond that, men need our help
  • Men should know what turns you on. How can a man know your body better than you do? Let your partner know what you like. Better still, show him
  • Not reciprocating during lovemaking. Some women really do just lie there and expect the male partner to do all the “work.” Men love to be made love to, so don’t overlook your opportunity to please your partner
  • Thinking sex is “messy.  Get your brain turned on to the joys of sex and off of  cleaning the sheets
  • Certain positions are “unladylike.” No such thing. If it pleases both of you go for it
  • Refusing to let a partner try anything new. You don’t want to eat the same meal twice in a week, why would you expect your partner to want to have sex the same way every time
  • Hiding sex toys. If you need a toy to add to your enjoyment, don’t be afraid to say so 
  • A man’s erection is all about you. Big, big mistake. A man can be under stress, not feel well, or just not have been as much in the mood as he thought. Don’t get offended – just calmly try doing something new you think he might enjoy.

Sex is about having fun, so don’t get all tangled up with what you think is right or wrong – just go for the gusto!

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sastisfying a Woman Sexually Can Only Be Taught By Women

by Linda Franklin

Sastisfying a Woman Sexually Can Only Be Taught Women Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanSatisfying a woman sexually isn’t rocket science, but men just keep doing the same-old, same-old without trying to educate themselves on what woman want.  That male-ego subborness results in anger, confustion and frustration for both the man and the woman.

Men have to learn to ask for specific directions from someone who knows how to get where they want to go. Typically they are getting their sex tips from porn and men’s magazines.  So, let’s face it – the average man is  CLUELESS on how to satisfy a woman.

The only way to learn how to please a woman sexually is information from other women.

Men really don’t have any idea what they’re missing, one man admits.  He says, “a completely satisfied woman is the most beautiful sight I’ve ever seen.”  He’s right!  When the lady is happy the world is a happier place for everyone.

I am not a sexologist but if you want to learn everything you can about female sexuality, I suggest you check out this site.  Betty Dodson, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades.  Both Betty and her partner Carlin Ross believe the following:

* Masturbation is the foundation for all human sexual activity.

* Sexual repression begins with the prohibition of childhood masturbation.

* Every individual is entitled to contraception. Intentional motherhood is essential for the health and well being of women, children, men and the planet.

* Comprehensive sex education that includes information on how to achieve sexual pleasure in a variety of sex styles and relationships.

* Feedom to choose from a range of different lifestyles such as remaining single, couples living together casually, monogamous or open marriages and all variations of communal living based upon personal choice.

* Eliminating myths surrounding human sexuality from virginity to monogamous marriage.

* The concept of beauty is arbitrary and controlled by corporations that prey on women’s lack of self-esteem.

* Sexual pleasure and orgasm is the source of life and creativity. As we awaken our bodies through the senses, we awaken our minds to the knowledge that we are all related and connected to every living thing on planet Earth and throughout the vast universe.

Both men and women will learn volumes about women’s sexuality by reseraching their site.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Female Orgasm Still A Mystery

Female Orgasm Still Quite A Mystery Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin 

Female orgams are confusing and all the reserach being done to understand them isn’t making it more clear, at least to me. I don’t know why but the female orgasm has always been a bit of a mystery. For starters, no one seems to know exactly why women have them  — or don’t, as the case may be.
 

We as women are supposedly the more sensitive sex.  We differ from the male ‘players’ and are, supposed to be more likely to achieve orgasm with someone we know and trust.  But is that really true? 

Recently I wrote a blog about women having orgasms while they were working out in the gym. These orgasms were quite unexpected and not the result of sexual thoughts or physical stimulation. The exercises which hit the spot centred around the core abdominal muscles — produced this phenomenon and given the name ‘coregasm’.

The female orgasm is as diverse as it is fascinating, and we’re still a long way from understanding it.  But, I do believe that women are able to experience a feeling of sexual arousal every bit as easily and intensely as men can. 

For too long, our views on the female orgasm have been mired in misconceptions based on old-fashioned ideas of how women should behave. Science just doesn’t bear most of it out.

The truth is, very little research has ever been done into women’s sexuality. And what research was done, for example by Masters and Johnson in the Fifties — the ‘pioneers’ who recorded some of the first laboratory data on the anatomy and physiology of human sexual response — was very heavily influenced by the culture of the time, which assumed that women didn’t really enjoy sex.

They were right in a way. Many women didn’t. But how much of this was because both sexes were so ignorant about the mechanics of the female body?

‘The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life was whether or not she had a new partner’.

A generation ago, most people hadn’t even heard of female erogenous zones and, if they had, they certainly didn’t talk about them. In fact, to this day, there’s still debate over whether the G-spot even exists, let alone what its actual role is during orgasm. 

So thank heavens scientists are finally exploring the issue of what happens to a woman’s body during sex coolly and objectively. Some of the findings have been pretty explosive.

Australian psychiatrist Prof Lorraine Dennerstein recently embarked on a large-scale study of the sexual responses and habits of menopausal women, which will revisit them over many years.

Many hoped that Dennerstein and her colleagues would find some kind of smoking gun — something lacking in older women that could be linked to a decrease in sexual desire as women aged.

Instead, she found something more curious. The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life? Not her weight, her health, or even her hormonal status. It was whether or not she had a new partner.

That’s right — women enjoyed more orgasms if they were having sex with a new man. 

Other studies have shown, that some women can climax purely by having less obvious parts of their body stimulated, such as their breasts. There is also scientific backing for the idea that for females, sexual satisfaction is ‘literally all in the mind’.

Emerita Professor Beverly Whipple at Rutgers University, in the U.S. — who pioneered the discovery of the G-spot in 1982 — found in 2004 how some women with spinal injuries can have orgasms simply by thinking themselves into the mood.

In short, the biggest sexual organ could well be the brain.

The implication is that women’s brains behave differently when experiencing pleasure according to whether they are alone or with a partner. It also suggests that a woman’s solo orgasm may be different to one she experiences with another person.

Perhaps the most important message is that when it comes to discovering how our bodies work, we are at the start of a long and fascinating journey.

A workout at the gym? A series of sexy thoughts? A loving evening under the marital duvet with a long-term partner, or a passionate clash with a new boyfriend? They all have their ways of leaving us satisfied.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

What Women Really Want In Bed

 

What Women Really Want In BedFrom the time we are girls we are taught to massage the male ego, not with simply telling the male species how terrific they are, but hesitating to speak the truth because we don’t want to hurt their feelings.  We learned early on that could cause them to feel uncomfortable or imperfect.

This same dynamic is hurting a lot of women when it comes to their own sexual satisfaction. A woman who feels she is a ballsy broad in her daily life finds herself afraid to say “Please do this” or “Don’t do that” in the bedroom because she is afraid that the man will be shocked, upset or disappointed.

We know we should speak up about what we want and need sexually, but until more women are willing to do that, there are a number of things that men should know about. 

Here’s the shortlist:

Sex or Porn – We can tell when you’re doing something because you saw it in a porno. Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants – especially the women. In real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold. Of course, we feel men already know this but would rather not bring it to their attention.

Women do like having sex, and most of us can point to at least one or two experiences where a man orgasmed as soon as he touched you, and then rolled over and fell asleep while you wondered if that was all you’re going to get. But just because women would prefer intercourse to last more than 60 seconds doesn’t mean that longer is always better.  The vagina’s ability to continue lubricating itself is limited, which can make marathon sex feel more like a duty than a joy.

We know the path to orgasm Are you trying everything but nothing works to get her there? There’s a strong possibility she actually knows exactly what needs to happen, but is afraid to say so.  She might feel what she needs isn’t something you’ll like so she won’t ask.  It’s important to talk about this – but not in the middle of a sexual encounter.  Wait until the opportunity arises and then be open to hearing what really turns her on.

Women who have trouble achieving orgasm still enjoy sex but might avoid it because they fear disappointing their partner.  They dread the endless attempts to make orgasm happen. So, when you’re having that talk explaining that you’re not going to freak out if she starts speaking up about her needs.  Tell her she’s not being judged on her orgasmic skills and she doesn’t  have to be the star everytime you have sex. 

Women don’t like to fake orgasms, but pretty much all women turn the volume up on the ones they do have, because they know you like it. This isn’t lying, but embellishment, and it would be nice if men returned the favor. Sex is no time for masculine stoicism. A little verbal appreciation in the form of moaning and groaning makes a nice two-way street.

Err on the gentle side  Our bodies are very sensitive when aroused, so a gentle touch is appreciated.  Pushing, pulling and excessive banging not the way to go.  Men who dive at a woman’s genitals with their mouths might be appreciated for their enthusiasm, but not so much for their technique. Pressure can be added as needed, but the shock to the system of having someone overdo it can be a major turnoff.

 

Obviously, every woman is different, and even with these most general of guidelines, you’ll find dissenters. Communication between partners is the ideal. But have some sympathy on women who haven’t read enough self-help books or seen enough therapists to overcome their fear of speaking up.

You might find that having patience and understanding will make it easier to draw them out over the long run. To encourage more communication, don’t make faces or act like your ego is hurt when women do push themselves to speak up. It likely took a lot of courage so a little appreciation goes a long way.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.