Sixty Really Isn’t The New Forty

by Linda Franklin

Sixty Really Isn't The New 40 by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDo you ever catch a glimpse of yourself as you walk by a store window?  For a split second you wonder who is that woman?  Then reality hits.  It’s you.

As I age,  I find the disparity between how I feel on the inside and how I look on the outside grows ever greater. Some days I feel 20; others 35; on a bad day, perhaps 45 But more than that? Never. 

It’s scary heading for senior status in a society that places so much premium on being young.  Women over 60 complain they become invisible, ble — unless, of course, they happen to be Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda or Helen Mirren.

In a room full of women you can have a great debate on the right way and the wrong way to handle aging. How do you live life as a 60-something to the fullest, without behaving like a fool.  Should women succumb to aging gracefully or is disgracefully the way to go?  

Unlike for our mothers’ generation, there’s no road map for being a woman of 60-plus today. It strikes me there’s a good, a bad and an ugly to this state of affairs. On the upside, far from slowing down, for many women fun and freedom beckon in their seventh decade

Fashion may, for the most part, be aimed at the young, but there’s plenty of grown-up glamor to be found in upmarket labels. There’s no excuse for being a fashion frump, whatever your age.

The majority of women I know approaching 60 continue to work.  Many of them because they are the sole source of income, others because they love what they do.  But, then there are the women who spend their days shopping and doing the granny shift.  

It’s interesting that the divorce rate of folks 60-plus has increased.  The idea that divorce and starting over is the cure for the disease of old age is becoming increasingly common currency. While increasing numbers of 50 and 60-somethings are busy playing sex gods and sirens on the internet, many are discovering that finding a mate late in life is no easy task.

When friends’ marriages end in their 50s, the women discovered the joys of sex and dating anew. But now they’re in their 60s, they are facing up to the fact that they may have to spend the rest of their lives alone.

They’re getting on with life as best they can, but it’s not a prospect they relish. Some of those who were abandoned by their spouses are bitter; some who did the dumping are beginning to regret it; others who found Mr. Right are thanking their lucky stars.

Beauty has always been treated as a virtue, and with cosmetic surgery promising faces and bodies that deny the years, it’s easy to understand why women are increasingly desperate to turn back the clock.

There’s no refuting that women feel empowered when they view their surgically improved selves in the mirror — but 60 is 60, no matter what the smoke and mirrors

To say I’m glad I’m not young any more would be a lie. But I’m not sad either. I remember the Swinging Sixties as if they were yesterday.

Bottom line –  as you approach the big 6-0 there is a hell of a lot of living to do.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.