Red Flag Warnings That Signal Your Relationship Is In Trouble

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Top 13 Red Flags In A Relationship  The Real Cougar WomanThe dissolution of TomKat’s marriage is old news by now, but you can’t help but wonder about all the waving neon flags that Cruise managed to miss. I mean, talk about getting blind-sided — and all so publicly.

Alas, Tom Cruise isn’t the first to have been duped. Remember the late, brilliant Nora Ephron’s Heartburn? Nora chose to ignore some blaring bullhorns in that saga. Of course, that heartbreak manifested into a hugely successful smash, but a broken heart is a broken heart. I’m not telling you to be a paranoid nut… but pay attention… and don’t settle for anybody’s crumbs.

Now, for our top ON FIRE red flags while you are still in a relationship… drum roll please…

Red Flag #1: You’re Not Getting Any
Is your man more passionate in the kitchen cooking then he is in the sack? Is he squeamish about your lustiness, fondness for leather panties and the occasional spanking? No discussion here. Get the hell out. It’s not gonna get any better.

I had a real mess of a boyfriend who explained to me that he liked me too much to have sex with me. He could do whores, just not women he liked. Oy….

Red Flag #2: He’s a Cheat.
An obvious one, you’d think… but the most spectacular women in the world have put up with cheats, porn freaks and their “sex addictions.” Tiger Woods, Jesse James, Peter Cook, Russell Brand… Let’s leave this humiliating drama to our college years and avoid compulsive damaged dudes, shall we?

Red Flag #3: He Disses his Ex…
…And blames her for his emotionally frozen take on the world. “Baggage” from his past will keep you begging for the “L” word, compliments and just plain ole love and respect. Run for the hill, ladies. This doozie needs to do some deep inner work — and will only leave you dining on a plate of empty fare.

To learn all of the Red Flags click here.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Women More Adventurous In Bed

by Linda Franklin

Women More Adventurous In Bed by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanTalking dirty and being sexually adventurous seems to come more naturally to women than men.

In a new survey, it turns out women are not only more experimental in bed, but were far more likely to talk dirty and share fantasies with their partners than men.

While most respondents – all of whom were in relationships – said that they enjoyed sex with the lights on, wearing sexy lingerie, having sex in different areas of the home and using lubricants, more women than men were willing to go further in the bedroom.

This is good to know because for far too long women have been made out to be the prudes who actually restrict their male partners.  That’s just not the case is it ladies?Being sexually adventurous is, perhaps unsurprisingly, linked to the sexual satisfaction of both partners – so much so that the more open-minded and repeatedly adventurous the couple, the longer the relationship lasted.

50 per cent of the survey’s respondents said that they watched porn as a couple.

In a previous survey I read, revealed that women are more bored in their relationships than men, despite being more sexually satisfied.

A quarter of those respondents – over half of whom were married – said that boredom in their relationship had led to infidelity, and nearly 60 per cent were keen to try something new to spice up their sex lives.
One thing both sexes agree upon is their shared enjoyment of orgasm – though simultaneous climaxes are far rarer than many a Hollywood movie may have some believing.
 
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Bad Sex – Is It A Deal Breaker?

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman
 
Bad Sex - Is It A DealBreaker? by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman You met this great guy. You have been have dated five or six times and are thinking this could be the start of something big.  But, then your marvelous fantasy is abruptly derailed.  The spark you thought was there fizzled in the bedroom.  So what do you do – send him packing?

Yes, bad sex can be a totally legit reason to break up. The idea that the quality of sex within an otherwise good relationship is “trivial” was invented by people who are not having good sex.  Do you really want to listen to them?  I don’t think so.

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Cancer Survivors Dating Site Attracts Thousands

Cancer survivor website by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Having survived stage 4 cervical cancer, Laura Brashier knows she is lucky to be alive. But when the twice-divorced hair stylist, from Rancho Santa Margarita, California, tried to start dating again, it proved more difficult than she ever imagined.

Ms Brashier, then 37, found the aggressive radiation and surgery that beat the disease had left her body so damaged that intercourse was impossible.

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Sex Has No Expiration Date

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Sex Has No Expiration Date by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanWhen it comes to sex, there’s no such thing as as expiration date.  Sex is proven to be a good way to stay healthy,but it seems to have an extra special benefit in August.  Researchers from Boston State Hospital have found that summer sun at least doubles levels of the sex hormone testosterone.  So now have more fun in the sun takes on an entirely new meaning. 

There are so many benefits of having sex on a regular basis and here are just a few that you may not be aware of. 

Sex 3X a week halves the risk of heart attack or stroke – A study in Israel found that women who had two orgasms a week were up to 30 per cent less likely to have heart disease than those who didn’t enjoy sex or didn’t orgasm. ‘The endorphins released during sex also neutralize the stress hormones in the body, which are linked to heart disease.

Just a word of caution however –  if you’re over 50, overweight and unfit, there is a risk to your heart — just as there would be if you suddenly and vigorously took up any form of exercise.

Sex Strenthens Your Bones – Menopausal women who have sex every week have estrogen levels twice as high as their abstaining counterparts. Estrogen protectsbone health and losing it after menopause has been linked with osteoporosis.

Sex Helps You Quit Smoking – Here’s a simple way to get your man to kick his smoking habit — remind him that it causes the penis to shrink and can cause impotence. Erections are all about good blood flow, and lighting up worsens blood flow to the spongy tissues in the penis. As a result, it is starved of oxygen and become fibrotic — forming scar tissue — which is less elastic and less able to expand during an erection than regular healthy tissue.’  Smoking is also a known cause of erectile dysfunction as it causes hardening of the arteries and hampers good blood flow.

Sex Is A Natural Sedative – For a man, a powerful orgasm is the equivalent of having a 2-3mg shot of diazepam (or Valium).  It works as a muscle relaxant which is why so many men nod off after finishing — there really is a biological reason.  The endorphins released during sex can really help treat depression and clear the mind.\

Sex Guards Against Incontinence –  If a woman is active during sex, it’s a good workout for her pelvic floor muscles. The muscles that stem the flow of urine, reducing leakage and incontinence, all benefit and this reduces the risk of stress incontinence and prolapse later in life. After having children many women don’t have the time to do dedicated pelvic floor exercises, so sex provides this natural workout.

Sex doesn’t come with an expirtation date.  There are people in their 80’s having sex on a regular basis.  Look at sex as the most fun workout ever. Just lay back and enjoy the benefits.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Mr. Big Or Mr. Sensible – You Get To Choose

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Mr. Big Mr. Big has money, ambition and good looks, but is that what Real Cougars really want?  It might be our fantasy, but as we mature we realize other qualities matter a lot more.

Researchers found that younger women are much more likely to be seduced by a high-flier but more seasoned women come to value more deep-rooted qualities like reliability, friendship, understanding and a man who loves us for who we are – warts and all.

A survey of 9,000 women aged 16 to 75 found that wealth and ambition in a man were the two favourite qualities for younger women, with half admitting they look for one who can afford to lavish them with expensive amenities.

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Real Cougar Women Wondering If They Need A Man To Be Happy

By Dr. Fayr Barkley, Ph.D.

Wonder_woman_deluxe A Real Cougar Woman works to keep her life in balance. She juggles kids, work, friendships, social obligations, finances, and staying beautiful, healthy and fit.  She is really a Wonder Woman but does she have time to search for THAT great man? 

Life after an unhappy marriage may teach women to raise the bar on the next guy they meet.Many women I have taked to say, men are no longer on their radar. 

Often what happens with smart, savvy, self actualized women is they wind up knit picking each man they meet to the point where they stop looking for or exploring a relationship altogether. Convinced there are no "right" men out there, more and more time is spent at the gym, engaging in a hobby, meeting the girls for happy hour, reading the latest best seller's list offering. More time sans men. 

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