Make-Up Sex – The Same High As Cocaine

by Linda Franklin

Make-Up Sex - The Same High As Cocaine Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanMake-up Sex produces an emotional high that is highly intoxicating. There’s nothing like steamy sex to quench the flames of a heated argument.

But according to one doctor, jumping into the sack to smooth things over is the same as taking cocaine.

Clinical psychologist Seth Meyers believes that the high experienced from make-up sex is the real reason couples run for the covers to stop a fight and doesn’t go very far in solving the problem.

In a recent blog post on Psychology Today entitled, Make-Up Sex Hurts: Why and How to Avoid it, the L.A.based doctor explained why he think it is ‘bad news.’

‘It reinforces fighting and emotional drama. Think about it: If you have amazing sex after you have a huge fight, doesn’t it make sense to fight again when the reward is so great?’ He asked his readers.

The controversial theory contradicts what most people consider as a healthy way to end bad feelings and reconnect with a partner, but Dr. Meyers says that in most cases the search for intimacy is used as a band-aid for a larger issue.

When couples have shared ‘extreme negative emotions’, he explained, make-up sex provides a quick and easy resolution that might otherwise not have existed. 

‘They hunger to switch gears and jump to the opposite end of the spectrum- to feel the high that comes with making up,’ he wrote. ‘Honestly, it’s not that different from an addict who needs a hit of cocaine.’

But while initiating an argument solely for the satisfaction of the ensuing make-up sex is clearly indicative of a larger problem, compensating for a nasty spat by getting physical can also spice up your sex life, according to Dr. Jennifer Berman.

The Californian ‘sexpert’ told one curious reader in an issue of Health magazine: ‘Makeup sex is normal – and generally healthy, too.

‘Not only can it be madly passionate, but it can also sustain intimacy during tough times. Besides, it’s natural to feel turned on after an argument.’

Dr. Meyers argues real intimacy comes with balance and understanding and men and women would do better to pause for thought the next time they are compelled to rip each others’ clothes off mid-debate.

He advised: ‘Should you find yourself in the middle of a sexual encounter and suddenly realize that you feel confused, angry or sad, gently pull back and explain to your partner that you want to stop and try again later.  Checking in with yourself and communicating honestly and directly is the best way to keep the problem from snowballing.’

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.


Linda Franklin Shares The Things She Knows For Sure

Linda_Franklin77 Recently I was interviewed by a writer from Psychology Today. She had a long laundry list of questions about Real Cougar Women. She wanted to know how we are different from the media's shabby portrayal of women in general.  I told this 27 year old woman to hold on tight because she was about to get a crash course on living as a powerful woman. In my opinion, you are never too young to tap into these gifts.

We talked for well over an hour and I knew by the time we finished she got it. Her attitude had shifted and she actually said, " I want to be a Real Cougar".  After I hung up the phone I sat quietly and thought about all of the things I know for sure.  The lessons I have learned that have molded me into the Real Cougar Woman I am today.

One thing I know for sure is that our world is speeding up.  Changes are happening more quickly today than every before.  I used to think I was imagining this accelerated speed because I was getting older, but that's not it.  People of all ages are feeling the same ramp up in energy. So now, more than ever, we have to slow down and focus on what's important to us. 

Keeping my spiritual reservoir full is essential to my overall happiness.  Listening to my gut has saved my ass on numerous occasions.  Society wants you to believe that the only road to success is hard work and sacrifice.  I have not found that to be true and I have experienced much success in my life.  The key is to create consciously. That means learning to create the things that you want – the things you are excited and passionate about.  You get to choose how you want to live your life and just knowing that changes the entire ballgame. 

Here are a few more things I know for sure:- 

  • at the core of who we are is spirit
  • we are very powerful and when we learn to tap into that power – all things are possible
  • we are artists who every day sit in front of blank canvas and create our reality  
  • when we learn to detach from outcomes – we attach more fully to our natural power
  • there is no right or wrong – just life experiences designed to make us more aware
  • when you rise up from fear and pursue passion you go from living your life in black & white to living it in  technicolor   
  • that each and every one of us is a unique and magnificent creation

One more thing all Real Cougar Women know for sure. We are the perfect blend of masculine and feminine energy.  Our masculine energy helps us get things done but our feminine is where our real power lies. We have the power and are not afraid to use it.