by Dr. Fayr Barkley Ph.D.
So many of the women I talk to tell me they had unfulfilled sex lives when they were married. Child rearing, career, taking care of the home and hubby left them totally exhausted. Marrying young, without the experience of varied sexual partners, and not having fulfilling married sex, all contributed to them wanting more.
They want what they feel they have missed out on, and many are finding this experience with a younger man.
It’s important to note, however, that 90% of these women are looking for a relationship, as opposed to a one night stand or a friend with benefits.
I don’t know? Is the media to blame for how we view older women, younger men relationships? Many of the younger men I talk to tell me they are not happy in how the media portrays them; horny, bumbling frat boys trying to lose their virginity. I know doctors, lawyers, engineers, MBAs and other professionals who are seriously looking for a meaningful relationship with an older woman.
Unfortunately, there are still men, whom I say are laboring under the Myth of Stiffler’s Mom, who think a Cougar is a desperate, leopard print wearing, wine guzzling, bar fly waiting to drag them home, provide endless sex and pay their bills. The fact is, there are far more younger men looking to meet older women than there are older women looking to meet younger men. So, The Real Cougar Woman can afford to be very selective. If the man doesn’t bring his A game to the table he will be passed over.
Women over 40 make up over 50% of the work force. They are controlling more and more of the disposable income in the United States and with financial freedom come more choices. Since they don’t need a man to support them financially, they are going after what appeals to them more: younger men who are fun, adoring, exciting, who are eager to please in and out of bed. They are ditching the couch potatoes in favor of the younger and more active men.
Some relationships are for a reason, some last but a season and some last a lifetime. I believe there is a lid for every pot.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.