Hormone Levels Blamed For Women’s Attraction To Bad Boys

by Linda Franklin

Hormone Levels Blamed For Woman Attraction To Bad Boys Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanA woman’s perception of ‘the perfect partner’ can depend entirely on the state of her hormones. Most women have a pretty good idea of what their Mr. Right should offer her, but their idea of the perfect man is a lot more flexible than most would think.  In fact, it varies with the monthly cycle.

When hormone levels reach a level that makes her more likely to conceive, that smooth-talking, handsome bad boy rockets to the top of the priority list.  Under normal circumstances he might be dismissed as a poor candidate for a solid relationship, but when hormones are raging he’s perfect in every way. In other words, Mr Wrong rapidly becomes Mr Right.

Researcher Kristina Durante said: ‘While women do not realize it, the hormones associated with fertility lead them to delude themselves about sexy, bad boys. ‘Instead of seeing them as unreliable, these women think that they will become devoted partners and better dads.’ Dr Durante created fictitious online dating profiles of a handsome, charismatic skier and an average-looking but successful accountant. She then asked young women if they thought the men were father material.

The women did the test twice, when their fertility was at its highest and lowest. Their view of the accountant did not change but the skier rose in their estimations when their chance of conception was higher, said the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Dr Durante, of the University of Texas.

Not sure I’m buying Dr. Durante’s conclusions.  I know lots of women who constantly make bad choices in the man department. Can we blame everything on our hormones?

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Libido Gives Women A Sense Of Identity

by Linda Franklin

Libido Give Women A Sense of Identity  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanWhen any group of married women get together for a no-holds-barred chat the conversation ultimately turns to sex.  And, one of them, or maybe all of them will admit to at some point being turned off sex.

They might joke about their loss of libido, but the reality is that it can become a corrosive problem that causes crippling guilt in the woman and forces untenable compromises on her relationship.

Loss of libido can strike at any age and the cause can be emotional, psychological or medical.  The emotional triggers include stress, anxiety, family concerns, financial worries and marital break-up.

‘I get into bed and just conk out. My loss of desire is nothing to do with my love for my husband – it’s very much a physical issue”, one woman admits.

Yes, it’s possible to sustain a marriage without sex, but it has a devastating impact on any sense of intimacy. There are a lot of women out there suffering from loss of libido but they won’t admit it, and that’s probably why so many marriages fail in later life. Loss of sex drive is often a reflection of low hormone production, most commonly experienced around the time of perimenopause. Those changes in a woman’s body pack a powerful punch.

A woman’s libido fluctuates. When you’re young, it’s always there. When you have children, it begins to fade — and when you reach 50, unless you’re with a man who makes you feel attractive, it can fade away all together.

Libido helps give women a sense of identity. The stronger and more confident you feel, the stronger your libido. ‘I don’t think a woman’s libido ever dies.  But, a lot does depend on how the man in her life makes her feel”.

The good news is that a high proportion of women do eventually see their libido return. There is no quick fix, however, and, as of  yet, no wonder-drug to cure it. Libido is affected by your general health,  your self-confidence, your body image’.  If you are going through a change you should seek the advice of your physician.  Do your research before you go and be prepared to ask questions. 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Pregnancy After 45 – When Do You Hang Up The Baby Booties?

By Dr. Jennifer Landa

Pregnancy after 45, Dr. Jennifer Landa - The Real Cougar WomanWith the recent miscarriage suffered by TLC’s “19 Kids and Counting” star, Michelle Duggar, the risks of pregnancy after age 45 have stepped into the limelight. These days, many celebrities are having children at older ages and making it seem easy and the norm, but such a feat is not without significant risks.

The risk of miscarriage in general is high – one in seven pregnancies end in miscarriage, and with the ability to detect pregnancies at very early stages with at-home pregnancy tests, the true union of sperm and egg often ends in a miscarriage 60 to 70 percent of the time. After the age of 40, this risk increases to one in three pregnancies and by age 45 – one in two pregnancies will end in a miscarriage.

A number of factors contribute to this high-risk – the first being lower levels of progesterone. As a woman ages her hormone levels naturally decline.  Low progesterone makes the pregnancy at extreme risk for miscarriage because this hormone is responsible for supporting the embryo and growing fetus. Without adequate levels, that support to the fetus is non-existent and the pregnancy fails.

Genetic abnormalities, due to the eggs of an older female being…well, older – also contribute to the riskiness of the pregnancy. In an older egg, the risk of mistakes when the DNA is replicated skyrockets, putting the pregnancy or, ultimately, the baby at-risk. In this case, pregnancies that do make it term have a greater risk of producing a child with special needs.  This is something women should take into serious consideration when planning pregnancy after the age of 40.

Not only is pregnancy after age 45 risky for the baby, it can be a challenging situation for the mother-to-be as well. Gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia are significant disease risks.  Both threaten the health and future health of the mother and the fetus. Pre-eclampsia is the number two cause of maternal death in the United States, primarily affecting pregnant women under 20 or over 40 years of age.

In the case of Michelle Duggar, her age was not her only risk factor – women who have had several children are at an even greater risk of premature delivery and postpartum bleeding.  After multiple deliveries, the uterus loses its muscle tone.  These muscles are essential to slowing and stopping bleeding after delivery – excessive bleeding following delivery can also lead to emergency surgery, hysterectomy or even – death.

Pregnancy is always a blessing and many women might argue that it is worth every risk to bear their own child, however, if you carefully examine the risks – it is not just the health of the mother that is affected – the baby’s entire life could be altered.  If you are planning to or do become pregnant at an older age, generally after age 35, talk to your doctor to minimize risks associated with your pregnancy.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Frustrated Man Wonders Is Sex Different With Cougar Women?

Hi Linda,

Frustrated-man I have been dating a 45 year old menopausal woman for the last month. She is extremely fit and health conscious. She knows that her hormonal levels are very very low, but because she hasn’t had a sexual relationship in a long time she has neglected doing anything about it.


I am a 40 year old man. I really like this woman a lot.  We have so much in common, and I would like the relationship to develop further.  Her kisses are amazing and make me melt – thats a bonus 🙂

But here’s the problem.  We have been 90% intimate on a half dozen occasions, and every time, I have found her responsiveness to be not just low, but practically a zero. I have been with two other women in their early 40’s that could climax easily multiple times to my delight of course.

But with this woman, I am downright bored and frustrated at how bone dry and unresponsive she is. I have been able to bring her to climax orally, after 45 minutes of intense and wearisome stimulation.
What do I do? Is there a remedy? How can I broach the subject without hurting her on such a sensitive issue?
I hope I don’t sound like a jackass for having written such things…but I know that I am a good and tender lover.  Do I have to adjust my expectations when I’m with an older woman? 
Thanks, K
Dear K,
If sex is that difficult I would say goodbye. That might sound harsh but if you are a man who likes sex and you are not getting it from the woman you care about – well then she’s not for you.
Menopause is no reason for a woman to let her sex life die. Today, there are bio-identical hormones, creams and many lubricants that bring back the ache and the sizzle.  I would not hesitate suggesting that she see a doctor to talk about what would work best for her.  If she wants to experience good sex, she will do whatever it takes.    
If you like being with Cougar Women there is no reason to stop.  If a woman truly likes sex she is not going to let her age get in the way of her pleasure. 
You are not a jackass – this is an important issue that needs to be addressed sooner than later. 
Hope that helps.