The Real Cougar Woman is celebrating the start of summer by taking time out for some personal reflection. It is time to take inventory, in fact, it's long overdue. For the past couple of days I have been looking at the choices I have made and evaluating what's working and what not.
To reflect effectively you have to get quiet. It's impossible to do it when you are smack in the middle of your day-to-day craziness. You know what I mean. As women, we just keep trucking along regardless of how we feel. There is a huge price to pay for not taking time out to re-evaluate. When we are at dis-ease we create disease which can manifest in many different forms.
It's easy to figure out what's working and what's not. But, too often I forget just how easy it is
We are always told a happy life is all about balance, but is there such a thing? Believing that every day has to be the perfect blend of work, family, leisure, healthy eating & exercising can drive you nuts. We all know by now that's impossible.
There are days I just can't get to the gym should I beat myself up over that. No – but I do. Women do and it's time to stop.
Perhaps this is a more realistic definition of balance. It's knowing that every day of our lives we are drawn to what's most important for that day. One day our attention is devoted to work because that's what makes you the happiest. But on another day it could be your family, or pampering yourself because that's where you choose to focus your energy. It's important to remember we always get to choose.
If we recognize that balance is a constant back and forth swing we won't drive ourselves crazy trying to be balanced. It's like the wind – it shifts. On any specific day there is always someone or something that's not going to need your full attention and that's okay.
Here's a statistic that might surprise you – or maybe it won't. Apparently, ninety six percent of women feel guility at least once a day and sometimes as much as four times a day. If you skipped the gym today, which I did, or you forgot to call your mother, you are probably feeling guilty right now.
Dubbed the GAT (guilty all the time) generation, the study found women beat themselves up daily about their friendships, relationships, work and body shape. It also discovered that almost half of the women interviewed were kept awake at night by guilt.
Author, Erica Jong said: ‘Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I will show you a man'.
So what topped the list of things that make us feel guilty?