Cougar Woman Admits Younger Men Are Exhausting

 By Linda Franklin

I read an article about relationships that have a large age gap and wanted to share it with you. To get the full scoop click here.  With all the spin around Ashton and Demi’s divorce, many women are wondering if an older woman can find happiness with a younger man.    You decide for yourself.

Cougar Woman Admit Younger Men Exhausting by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanHelen Backhouse, 56, an artist, is married to computer programmer Pierre Burghgraeve, 40. Helen thinks the 17 years between her and husband Pierre have become more apparent as they have got older. She says, “I enjoy reading, gardening and sitting peacefully, while Pierre is much more active. And our tastes are very different, too. I love music from the Seventies that he hates, and he listens to rap, which I can’t stand”.

“I like to tell everyone he keeps me young, but it can be exhausting being with a younger man”. And living with him and my son is sometimes like living with two squabbling teenage boys”.

There’s no doubt that being with a younger man raises eyebrows.

When we first got together, my friends were horrified. They worried he would eventually fall in love with a woman his own age and I would get hurt. Pierre reassures me this will never happen. Yet there are times when I have questioned what on earth I am doing.

I married my first husband, when I was 26 — he was the same age. The marriage ended after ten years without us having children.

When I was 38, I decided I wanted to be a mother and a  male friend agreed to be the donor father. I brought Thomas up on my own, until I met Pierre.

We met when Pierre when he became the chef at a restaurant near my home in 2004. When it comes to the physical side of our relationship, the thing that flashes through my mind is, ‘I’d better have the lights off’ — but Pierre has always made me feel desirable.

Sometimes I do worry about the fact that when he’s 65, I’ll be in my 80s. But I joke that after I’ve gone, he can find a woman his own age and have a whole new life.’

PIERRE SAYS: To me, age is irrelevant. When I met Helen, I didn’t think: ‘How old is she?’ I simply thought what an attractive, interesting woman she was. She has a wonderful career and is her own woman. I like the fact she’s seen more of life than me.

People may look at us oddly sometimes, but I no longer notice. Besides, I am not frozen in time — I am ageing, too. As I get older, I feel the age gap between us narrows. I don’t think too much about the future — I am just glad we are happy now.’

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Real Cougar Women Forced To Dumb Down?

by Linda Franklin  

Real Cougar Woman Forced To Dumb Down? by Linda Franklin The real Cougar WomanReal Cougar Women – women who are smart, independent and successful know relationships between men and women are changing radically. And, they are finding it increasingly difficult to marry successful men to have an important relationship with.

Research is revealing that when a woman is successful she is having to ‘trade down’ when it comes to finding a partner.  Historically, women have looked for partners who were richer and better educated than themselves.  Now that’s changing.  

As women outperform men in earnings and promotion the traditional model of the relationship between men and women is being turned on its head.

Philadelphia-based Pew Research Centre study, published in The Atlantic magazine, suggests female graduates are being put in similar situation to that faced for some time by black women.  Apparently 70 per cent of black women have no husband and there are twice as many black women as black men with university degrees.

So, where does that leave smart, educated women these days?  Confused.  What can they do?  Instead of dumbing down to find a man, look for one who loves you for who you are.  Yes, he may not be as financially successful as you are, but if he has other great qualities, and is not threatened by your powerful ways, you just might make it together.  

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

Ashton & Demi Splitting? Say It Isn’t So

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Ashton and Demi Splitting by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are, or should I say were, the model Cougar couple. Now rumors are flying about Ashton’s fling with another woman on his sixth anniversary. How tacky is that?

Neither one, both prolific Tweeters, have sent out any comment about the rumor to their combined 12 million followers.

As you might imagine, I’m rooting for Ashton and Demi. And, yes, it’s because of their 16-year age difference. I still don’t understand why it’s okay for older men to be with younger woman but not the other way around?

Are cougar relationships tough? Of course they are, but you tell me what relationship isn’t. Just read yesterday’s blog posting – Marriage – The Ultimate Endurance Test.  Maturity plays a big part if making it work. We know it’s not all about passion and fun.

Let’s face it, cheating isn’t confined to “cougar relationships.” Nor are those relationships doomed to fail. I talk to hundreds of Real Cougars who are with men 16 years younger and are happy as clams.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Bad Sex – Is It A Deal Breaker?

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman
 
Bad Sex - Is It A DealBreaker? by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman You met this great guy. You have been have dated five or six times and are thinking this could be the start of something big.  But, then your marvelous fantasy is abruptly derailed.  The spark you thought was there fizzled in the bedroom.  So what do you do – send him packing?

Yes, bad sex can be a totally legit reason to break up. The idea that the quality of sex within an otherwise good relationship is “trivial” was invented by people who are not having good sex.  Do you really want to listen to them?  I don’t think so.

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