Older Woman A Bonus For Younger Men

by Linda Franklin

It makes sense that an older woman is a turn on for a younger man.  Here’s why:

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Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted

Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Real Cougar Women are uber independent.  There isn’t much we can’t figure out on our own, but at the same time, we know how to make the man in our life feel needed and wanted.

Here are 6 proven secrets for balancing your relationship and keeping your guy feel loved and appreciated.

1. Show him you’re partners. There’s a big difference between showing your  man you need him (which he craves) and being needy (which terrifies him). A good partner wants to make you happy, to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, and to support you along your journey.

2. Ask his opinion.  Guys love to feel that their opinion is valued (who doesn’t, really?) So if you’re angling for a promotion at work or wondering how to deal with a difficult boss, ask your guy for his thoughts. Keep in mind that men are a solution-oriented sex, so be prepared for him to suggest an action plan.

3.  Let him make plans. Real Cougars want to do it all which isn’t the greatest way to show a man you care. Give him the chance to help you and to surprise you.  Yes, he may not do things exactly the way you do, but that can be a good thing.

4.  Ask him to help you with a “manly” task. Nothing boosts a man’s ego like doing something, well, manly. My husband revels in his ability to put together a piece of Ikea furniture that comes in 279 pieces.  Again its about letting him know he’s needed and you that you really can’t do it ALL yourself.

5.  Let him teach you about something he loves. Whether it’s olitics, football, investing, your guy is passionate about something you know nothing about. So ask him to tell you about it…then let him take you to a game, or plan a trip, or set a budget. He’ll be so appreciative that you took the time to learn about something that’s important to him, and the bonding experience will be priceless.

6.  Thank him. When your guy shares some information that you find interesting, or cracks you up with a funny story, or helps you figure out a problem that’s been baffling you, be sure to thank him. Let him know that he’s the only one who can make you laugh that hard, and the person who understands you best. The warm, fuzzy, confident feeling he gets when he’s around you will keep him coming back for more, guaranteed!

Give these tips a try and watch how he makes a special effort to show you how much YOU are needed.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sex Fantasies That Play In Real Life

by Linda Franklin

Sex Fanatasties That Play In Real Life Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanMost fantasies don’t make it successfully from your overly active imagination to real life.  If you want to take your fantasies to the next level, try something that has the possibility of working to your pleasurable advantage.

Try these four.

Role-play: If you can stay in the moment and have a vivid imaginations role-playing fantasies is the best way to get the kick without the fallout.  If you can kick the jitters, most couples love it once they get in character.

Tie-up  games:  Great way to shift the power back and forth.  Blindfolds work too.

Spanking:  Kept playful rather than painful, it’s ‘naughty’ enough to liven things  up yet unlikely to go horribly wrong if you start off lightly and stop the  second anyone feels uncomfortable (in a bad way).

Sex in  public: Yes it’s illegal but if you’re sensible and discreet, assess each  situation carefully and keep (most) of your clothes on, you’ll probably get away with it. It’s naughty without being too ‘out there’ and the threat of discovery  adds excitement and edginess.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Cougar Women Have Trouble Trusting

By Linda Frankin

Cougar Women Have Trouble Trusting Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman Trust is something we all want and deserve from a partner, but often our past experiences make that difficult to achieve.

Here’s an email I received from a woman who isn’t quite sure if her boyfriend is being totally honest about his intentions.

Dear Linda:

I have read your book “Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am” and I really enjoyed it. I was wondering if you could be so kind as to help me out and give me some of your wise words regarding a new relationship.

I recently met a man who is a police officer. (Nothing like a man in uniform and I’ve never dated one before.) He is 10 years younger, we’re both single and we both have special needs children. We have a lot in common.We have the same likes and he understands the Spiritual Path that I follow. 

 Here is my concern. I am a very curvaceous, full-figured woman with auburn hair and blue-green eyes. I don’t look my age of 49 – more like I’m in my 30’s. I take good care of myself and I am very confident. It’s just that on a previous occasion, quite a few years ago, another man in uniform told me he liked me, found me very attractive but wouldn’t date me because firefighters and police officers don’t date women like me. They date petite blondes, who are a size 6.  They have to date hot women to keep an image, so to speak.

I know that all men are not the same. But I’m a little leery of getting involved with this police officer. I do not want to be out with him, run into some of his co-workers and end up being the butt of some joke. I have talked to him about it and he says he doesn’t care. But his previous girlfriend was, guess what? Petite blonde, size 6 with big breasts.

Your input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.

Dear Unsure: 

Don’t let your past experience influence the present.  All men aren’t that shallow.  Your guy said the age difference doesn’t bother him – but it sure is bothering you.  STOP trying to read his mind – it’s impossible to do.  Instead, enjoy each other, take one step at a time and silence that nagging voice in your head from ruling your life.  Live for now and enjoy the moment. Fear can stop us from doing many things that are beneficial for our growth.  Don’t let it rob you of your chance at happiness.

Linda

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot

by Linda Franklin

Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar Woman Allure did another one of those fluffy surveys.  This time it was to find out how men and women really feel about a woman’s changing looks, the effects of plastic surgery, and whether sex gets better with age.  Allure polled 2,000 people nationwide.

Survey says:

– women believe their beauty peaks at 31 – but agree with men that 30 is the most seductive age for a woman.

– men are the most confident in bed between the ages of 50 and 69, while women experience their peak of sexual confidence between age 18 and 29.

-57% of the men and women polled agreed that sex gets better with age, only a third of male baby boomers said they were attracted to women their own age.

-36% of men between 18 and 29 say that ‘cougars are hot’.

-women are more pressured to look young.

-grey hair makes a women look old, but on a man it’s considered distinguished…although 63% of men color their hair to look younger, compared to only 36% of women.

Overall, 70% of men and women say they take non-invasive anti-aging measures, and only 1% admit to getting cosmetic surgery, injections and/or laser treatments.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Impotence Becomes One Man’s Biggest Blessing

Impotence Becomes One Man's Biggest Blessing Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Prior to founding Heart Open LLC, Michael Russer was a highly successful international speaker, author and columnist. Then in September of 2011 he began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radical prostatectomy, followup intensive radiation treatments and full-blown impotence.

He considers impotence to be one of the biggest blessings in his life. It made it possible for him and his partner to discover an entirely new approach to experiencing levels of emotional and physical intimacy that far exceeded anything he felt before.

Michael was on our weekly radio show, Powered Up, last night talking in great deatail about his fabulous sex life and it’s a WOW!!!.  I really urge you to listen to the podcast –  it’s an eye-opener. He told us that he and his girlfriend have to schedule time for sex on their calendars because each session lasts between 2 and 4 hours.  Yes, you read that right.

It is difficult for men who have had the radical surgery Michael did to achieve an erection, who can lead to all sorts of problems.  Because of this loss, it’s difficult  them to believe they still are still strong sexual beings capable of giving and receiving pleasure.  Men are conditioned to believe that intercourse is the end all, be all of sexual activity, but, there are so many other delicious ways to connect.  Women know this, men have to be taught.

The most important part of achieving satisfying sex is for the two people involved to have a strong emotional connection.  Without great communication, the sex never even comes close to its full potential.  Sex is not a chore, not a race to the finish, it’s a time when two people who care about each other delight in providing pleasure in a way that is loving and satisfying.  There is no goal you have to achieve – it’s fun with no pressure.

It is Michael’s personal mission to serve other couples who struggle with emotional and physical intimacy due to Erectile Dysfunction/Impotence and use his vibrant communication skills and his personal experience to share what he has learned.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest

Middle Age Sexy Is The Best

by Linda Franklin

Middle Age Sexy Is The Best  Linda Franklin, The RealCougarWomanIt seems that scarcely a day passes without seeing a survey on some aspect of the middle-aged female experience. Maybe we should feel grateful, because according to one of the surveys I read, pollsters are the only people who find ladies of a certain age even slightly interesting.

This is a sad commentary, but unfortunately it’s true.  Of 2,000 women who were surveyed, most agreed that 46 is the age that they become invisible to men.. 

The good news (according to this survey) is that by the time we get to 60 we start feeling better. That’s the good news????  How about the 14 years we are sitting crying in our beer?  If we’re smart, and I know we are, we won’t let that happen.  We will appreciate who we are, the woman we have grown into at any age we happen to be.

None of us can turn back the clock.  In my middle 40’s, I believed I could.   I was wrong.   I had to figure out for myself, and we all do, how to hold onto your sexy and that fire in your belly.

Here’s a couple of tips I’ll pass on to you if you’re feeling blue because of our age:

  • Play up your assets – now it’s time to do what feels good to you  – it’s your turn
  • Stop Listening to the naysayers who say life is over at 50
  • Don’t hold on to relationships that no longer nurture your soul
  • Change your look – go from just OK to sexy sophisticated
  • Take a risk – get out of your head – say screw you to the fear  – and watch what happens

We are powerful, fabulous females and even though we may have to play up different assets as we go through the decades, our confidence, our sexy, and appreciation of life will shine through.  Your passion for life will be recognized.

I am convinced that middle-aged women of today are creating another template for aging and it’s not what the pollsters are telling us.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.