Women’s Sexual Fantasies Updated

Women's Sexual Fantasies Updated Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanBy Linda Franklin

There’s a new book out that is aiming to revamp Nancy Friday’s 1973 bedroom rulebook, My Secret Garden. Ah yes, remember it well.

Garden Of Desires: The Evolution Of Women’s  Sexual Fantasies by Emily Dubberley delves into the female sexual zeitgeist and explores what’s changed (and why) when it comes to women and sex over the past  40 years: specifically, what turns us on these days.

In her book Dubberley zones in on five key  female sexual desires. And they are?    submissive fantasies, dominant fantasies, exhibitionism and voyeurism, group  sex, and partner fantasies.

SUBMISSIVE  FANTASIES

Fantasies of this nature vary from simply  being tied-up to the bed all the way through to having a formalized sex contract  complete with rules about which way you look, in the vein of Christian Grey and  Anastasia Steele in 50 Shades Of Grey.

Props such as whips, handcuffs, gags and  blindfolds are common in this type of fantasy.

Submissions could be emotional or physical  and may involve role-play – in some cases even going as far as pretending to be  a rape victim or a sex slave.

DOMINANT  FANTASIES

When the roles are reversed and the man  becomes the submissive to the female dominatrix. Role-play includes cheating on  a partner and being in control of a sex slave.

With research suggesting it’s very popular,  and almost a third of people report having these fantasies at some point, the  (sometimes literal ball-buster is a very popular role indeed.

The fantasy is about the woman being in  control of what happens in bed and inflicting both pleasure and pain as she sees  fit.

EXHIBITIONISM AND  VOYEURISM

Whether you’re doing it in the garden, the  park, on an aeroplane, in the stationery closet at work or simply beside an open window in your own home, the idea of being somewhere where you could get  caught or even be watched is a big turn-on for women.

Indeed, women in the book talk about the  secondary eroticism of watching others having sex, and the excitement of being  intimate when you know for certain you are being watched.

GROUP SEX

With so much going on when you have sex as  part of a group, many women relish the idea of being very, er, well-looked.

There is also an element of anonymity in some  cases, or, if you are part of a couple, bringing something new, different and  exciting into the bedroom.

For others the idea of experimenting with  your sexuality by engaging intimately with a member of the same sex is where the  fantasy lies.

PARTNER  FANTASIES

Quite simply, the idea of having sex with a  loving, exclusive partner really gets women hot under the collar.

Similarly, the idea of regular sex with a  specific partner who is not your own is also a fantasy, for example a celebrity,  a friend, or a work colleague crush.

Well, there you have it.  Do you agree with the latest findings?  Or do you have your own secret garden fantasy you want to share with us?

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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Tweeters Shared Insights On Dating After Divorce

Tweeters Shared Insights On Dating After Divorce Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDating after divorce can be daunting to most folks.  . So many are worried that they have so little to offer.

No doubt you are selling yourself way too short with that negative thinking and the folks on  Twitter seem to agree.

On Tuesday, tweeters shared the things they’re looking for in a potential date using the hashtag #10thingsimattractedto. The big surprise? Most people were entirely reasonable about what they expect in a partner.

Here’s what they tweeted.  What are you looking for when it comes to a great date or potential mate?

  • Someone who isn’t afraid to show their emotions
  • A man with manners who treats me with respect
  • Guys who don’t cheat
  • Men who are good with children and animals
  • Combination of compassion, intellect, sense of humor and humility
  • Self respect, confidence, Intelligence, Honesty, Modesty, Ambition, Perceptive
  • Easy to talk to

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

All Men Don’t Hate Women

Laurie Penny makes a powerful point – not all men hate women BUT all men benefit from female inequality:

By Linda Franklin

This is going to hurt. In the past few months, it has been almost impossible to open a newspaper or turn on a television without encountering a story about another underage girl being raped, another female politician harassed, another trans woman murdered. But as women, girls and a growing number of male allies start speaking out against sexism and injustice, a curious thing is happening: some people are complaining that speaking about prejudice is itself a form of prejudice.
These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalize. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.
Most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behavior. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works. Thousands of otherwise decent people are persuaded to go along with an unfair system because it’s less hassle that way. The appropriate response when somebody demands a change in that unfair system is to listen, rather than turning away or yelling, as a child might, that it’s not your fault. And it isn’t your fault. I’m sure you’re lovely. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a responsibility to do something about it.
You can choose, as a man, to help create a fairer world for women – and for men, too. You can choose to challenge misogyny and sexual violence wherever you see them. You can choose to take risks and spend energy supporting women, promoting women, treating the women in your life as true equals. You can choose to stand up and say no and, every day, more men and boys are making that choice. The question is – will you be one of them?
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Karl Lagerfeld Calling Angela Merkel Fat?

by Linda Franklin

Karl Lagerfeld Calling Angela Merkel Fat? Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanKarl Lagerfeld is at it again!  When is he going to learn to keep his mouth shut?  A designer who amassed great wealth from dressing women, sure doesn’t have much respect for the female population.

Recently he had this to say about German chancellor Angela Merkel – “she should dress ‘according to her special proportions’.  How dismissive is that cutting statement? And, remember he previously called Adele too fat, Michelle Obama’s fringe haircut a bad idea and Pippa Middleton should only show her back.

This 79 year old fashionista is either losing his marbles or needs a few lessons on how to charm the population who has buttered his bread for so many decades.  Come on Mr. Lagerfeld get with the program.  Perhaps you need to take a long look in the mirror.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

Sexy Over Sixty

by Linda Franklin

Sexy Over Sixty - Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar WomanSexy doesn’t have an expiration date…and these celebrities who are all over 60 are proving my point.

From Tina Turner to Jacqueline Smith, Jane Seymour, Bruce Springstein Suzanne Somers, Jane Fonda,  Diane Keaton –  they are all rockin’ it.  No sitting in the background for any of them. They aren’t afraid to bare a little leg, nail cleavage-hugging dresses or just let the silver fox within them shine through as they completely redefine what it means to be considered a “senior.”

Here’s a great photo gallery of what we all can aspire to. It’s all about the attitude and taking good care of yourself – inside and out..

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Female Orgasm Great For The Brain

by Linda Franklin

Female Orgasm - Great For The Brain Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar Woman Exciting News!!! Having an orgasm could actually give your brain a better workout than doing a crossword puzzle or a Sudoku, a neuroscientist has claimed.

The sensation increases brain activity across the whole organ whereas a puzzle activates only relatively localized regions, said Professor Barry Komisaruk.

The Rutgers University professor came to these conclusions after studying women in his laboratory at the university’s Department of Psychology. He measured the blood flow to their brains as they climaxed. He believes there is much more to learn about sexual climax, saying, we know virtually nothing about pleasure.

So while the good professor is doing more research, keep having those fabulous orgasms.  Not only are you having fun, it’s actually making you smarter.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Cowell Not Only Man Who Chooses Lookalike Lovers

by Linda Franklin

Cowell Not Only Man Who C