Bad Sex Is Pandemic

Bad Sex Is Pandemic Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanBad sex is pandemic so says, Paul Nelson an  Erectile Dysfunction coach and patient educator. A prostate cancer survivor at 46, Paul discovered during his recovery from surgery, that there was almost no authentic information about erectile dysfunction anywhere on the internet.

 

In 2009, he founded www.franktalk.org, the first noncommercial website for ED. He is now president of the Erectile Dysfunction Foundation, Inc (501c3) the country’s only advocacy/support organization for men with sexual dysfunction.

Here’s what Paul has to say:

Every day I sit down with guys who tell me the same story. Something isn’t working. It’s always a combination of causes. But the underlying cause of it all is somewhere, somehow, someone spread a lot of rules about sex (really bad rules) that sex is a hard penis in a vagina (or any other orifice). Women are supposed to crave it; men can base their self-esteem on how long they can keep it there.

Part of the problem is that many guys aren’t sure what to do other than intercourse or oral sex. This is where the woman has a fantastic opportunity to teach – but for many reasons, many women continue to have sex by the same bad rules.

This is a letter I wrote this morning to a 37 year old guy who was having performance issues. He watches a lot of porn and he can stay hard. With his wife, he loses his erection. I could photocopy this letter and give it out to most of my guys.

To read Bob’s answer to this question so many guys have click here.

There’s lots more information on Paul’s website  http://www.theedcoach.com/

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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No Sex Marriages – Can They Work?

No Sex Marriages - Can They Work? Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanIn a sex-obsessed society, where everyone – young, old, male and female – seems to be boasting of how many times a week they ‘do it’. The average person has sex 103 times per year, one study has found.  So that is why this may come as a relief to those who don’t come anywhere near that high water mark.  Many couples are happy to admit that sex plays no part in their marriages at all.

When partners find themselves at a point where sexual intimacy has died they tend to confide their predicament to no one. That’s understandable because  lack of sexual intimacy could be considered a personal flaw you don’t want people to find out about.

However, sexless relationships are a lot more common than people realize – sex therapists hear about this issue all the time from their patients.’

‘Couples who don’t make love start living like brother and sister or friends and get out of the habit of seeing one another in a sexual way,’ says Relate counsellor Paula Hall.

‘If both partners want to reintroduce sex, we encourage them to do so slowly, learning how to be sensual with each other and gradually building up to intercourse.’

Janice Hiller, consultant clinical psychologist at London’s Tavistock Centre for relationships, counsels hundreds of couples a year and says the death of intimacy in marriage is the reason most people seek help.

‘I’m sure many more don’t sign up for counselling but make a choice to stay together without sex,’ she says.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Viagara For Women – Not Sure About That

Viagara For Women - Not Sure About That Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanTrying to understand female sexuality is becoming a mainstream issue, and that’s a good thing.
Sunday’s New York Times Magazine section had an interesting article on why so many women are struggling  with the loss of their sexual excitement.  You can access  the full article here or read the gist of it below. 
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Center for Sexual Medicine at Sheppard Pratt in the suburbs of Baltimore women are participating in a new study.  The women chosen are either married or in committed relationships.  When they’re finish answering a series of  questions on their sex life they are given a round of pills.

The pills were either a placebo or a new drug called Lybrido, created to stoke sexual desire in women. The women are  supposed to take the tablets before having sex, and for every time she puts a pill on her tongue, she was supposed to make an entry in her online diary about her level of lust.

The promise of Lybrido and of a similar medication called Lybridos, which Tuiten also has in trials, or of whatever chemical finally wins the race for F.D.A. approval, is that it will be possible to take a next step, to give women the power to switch on lust, to free desire from the obstacles that get in its way. “Female Viagra” is the way drugs like Lybrido and Lybridos tend to be discussed. But this is a misconception. Viagra meddles with the arteries; it causes physical shifts that allow the penis to rise. A female-desire drug would be something else. It would adjust the primal and executive regions of the brain. It would reach into the psyche.

For many women  the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be monogamy itself.  There are so many factors involved so reading the full article is suggested.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted

Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Real Cougar Women are uber independent.  There isn’t much we can’t figure out on our own, but at the same time, we know how to make the man in our life feel needed and wanted.

Here are 6 proven secrets for balancing your relationship and keeping your guy feel loved and appreciated.

1. Show him you’re partners. There’s a big difference between showing your  man you need him (which he craves) and being needy (which terrifies him). A good partner wants to make you happy, to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, and to support you along your journey.

2. Ask his opinion.  Guys love to feel that their opinion is valued (who doesn’t, really?) So if you’re angling for a promotion at work or wondering how to deal with a difficult boss, ask your guy for his thoughts. Keep in mind that men are a solution-oriented sex, so be prepared for him to suggest an action plan.

3.  Let him make plans. Real Cougars want to do it all which isn’t the greatest way to show a man you care. Give him the chance to help you and to surprise you.  Yes, he may not do things exactly the way you do, but that can be a good thing.

4.  Ask him to help you with a “manly” task. Nothing boosts a man’s ego like doing something, well, manly. My husband revels in his ability to put together a piece of Ikea furniture that comes in 279 pieces.  Again its about letting him know he’s needed and you that you really can’t do it ALL yourself.

5.  Let him teach you about something he loves. Whether it’s olitics, football, investing, your guy is passionate about something you know nothing about. So ask him to tell you about it…then let him take you to a game, or plan a trip, or set a budget. He’ll be so appreciative that you took the time to learn about something that’s important to him, and the bonding experience will be priceless.

6.  Thank him. When your guy shares some information that you find interesting, or cracks you up with a funny story, or helps you figure out a problem that’s been baffling you, be sure to thank him. Let him know that he’s the only one who can make you laugh that hard, and the person who understands you best. The warm, fuzzy, confident feeling he gets when he’s around you will keep him coming back for more, guaranteed!

Give these tips a try and watch how he makes a special effort to show you how much YOU are needed.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Greedy Wife Leaving Husbands With Nothing

Greedy Wife Leaving Husbands With Nothing  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDivorce is an ugly business!  Nobody wins!  Wives are left hurt and looking for revenge and many husbands are forced to leave a house and children to live in a  furnished studio apartment.
Women seem to be  living by the principle of ‘don’t get mad, get everything’. And often, they go on getting everything for years, long after time has been called on their marriage.

In these days of equal education,  opportunities and access to professional careers, women are still expecting (and receiving) huge and continuing settlements when a marriage  ends.

I consider myself an advocate for women,  but I don’t see why today’s divorcing women should expect any kind of settlement at all.

If modern marriage is an equal  partnership, divorce should be the same, surely, with both parties getting out what they have put in, as when any other type of contract ends.

Yet modern women are still positioning  themselves as the weaker of the two sexes having to be kept by a big strong man, whether married or divorced. We have fought for equality, and many battles have been won, but divorcing women are still portraying pathetic little housewives unable to fend for themselves, before ruthlessly fleecing the men  they once professed to love.

Want to secure a juicy settlement?  Based on the Heather Mills principle, have a kid.   The presence of a child will ensure generous maintenance payments for years, maybe decades, to come.

It’s easy for an attractive woman to use her  charm and wiles to entrap a rich man, all the time calculating the cash they  receive when they can call time on the marriage. Why can’t they women give that kind of forethought into developing careers and financial independence rather than  sponging off someone else?

The bulk of women are married to ordinary earners and they too can be set up for years with the house, car, custody of children and a regular lump  sum in their accounts.

Some divorcees are reluctant to remarry, in case they kill the goose that lays the golden egg — maintenance usually stops when you have another husband to support you — so they are content with boyfriends and lovers.

When a wife has been brutally dumped, there might be greater grounds for sympathy. But these days, an estimated 70 per cent of  divorces are brought by women. What are these women being paid for, when no  longer married?

One woman, let’s call her Jane, was married for about 20  years when she decided she wanted a divorce. There were no particular  grounds, and no one else was involved. Both parties got a lawyer, and Jane was awarded 85 per cent of the joint assets. There were no children and she had never worked.

In 2013, women who demand everything and expect maintenance forever after, should hang their heads in shame.  We must prove to ourselves that we are not simpering victims, but proud, strong and, above all, financially independent females.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Can Affairs Can Save Your Marriage?

by Linda Franklin

Can Affairs Can Save Your Marriage? Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanCan an affair actually help save a troubled marriage?  Believe it or not many women say it can.

1 in 3 reported that infidelity helped boost their marital sex life.

Of those who do have affairs, 73 per cent said that they are doing it because they feel neglected by their spouse or partner.

Among the women who said that neglect was the reason for their infidelity, many also cited not having their emotional needs met – a factor that played a significant role in their decision to find someone else.  This doesn’t come as a shock.  Feeling under appreciated, neglected and taken for granted is a common war cry amongst women.

‘The reality is that many people can’t leave their partners for financial reasons and women in particular are usually reluctant to sacrifice their family life.

‘So they are taking care of their needs outside marriage. They’re stepping into the male arena when it comes to infidelity.’

Relationship expert, Tracey Cox, comments: ‘Sometimes an affair can be a wake up call for a marriage and jolt one or both partners into realizing just how important they are to each other and how devastating it would be to lose them.’

But, in general, betrayal isn’t an easy pill to swallow by either partner.  Once the bond of trust is broken it’s very hard to knit it back together.

The way to solve problems in a relationship is to talk about them and confront them before there’s the temptation to play away.

Everyone wants to be desired. If a married couple agree they both want to have sex elsewhere, it’s their decision. But when one person in a marriage wants to sleep with someone else but the other doesn’t, it will cause great pain.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.