Bad Sex Is Pandemic

Bad Sex Is Pandemic Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanBad sex is pandemic so says, Paul Nelson an  Erectile Dysfunction coach and patient educator. A prostate cancer survivor at 46, Paul discovered during his recovery from surgery, that there was almost no authentic information about erectile dysfunction anywhere on the internet.

 

In 2009, he founded www.franktalk.org, the first noncommercial website for ED. He is now president of the Erectile Dysfunction Foundation, Inc (501c3) the country’s only advocacy/support organization for men with sexual dysfunction.

Here’s what Paul has to say:

Every day I sit down with guys who tell me the same story. Something isn’t working. It’s always a combination of causes. But the underlying cause of it all is somewhere, somehow, someone spread a lot of rules about sex (really bad rules) that sex is a hard penis in a vagina (or any other orifice). Women are supposed to crave it; men can base their self-esteem on how long they can keep it there.

Part of the problem is that many guys aren’t sure what to do other than intercourse or oral sex. This is where the woman has a fantastic opportunity to teach – but for many reasons, many women continue to have sex by the same bad rules.

This is a letter I wrote this morning to a 37 year old guy who was having performance issues. He watches a lot of porn and he can stay hard. With his wife, he loses his erection. I could photocopy this letter and give it out to most of my guys.

To read Bob’s answer to this question so many guys have click here.

There’s lots more information on Paul’s website  http://www.theedcoach.com/

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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When Drinking Too Much Becomes A Problem

When Drinking Too Much Becomes A Problem Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanBy Linda Franklin

Women are drinking more than ever before, have you noticed that?  Having that extra glass of wine has become pretty mainstream.  The stresses that women are faced with today, have us looking for ways to unwind.  But is alcohol consumption the answer?

, an advocate for women over 50,  did a very interesting article in the Huffington Post about this.  She interviewed Dr. Mark Edison–a psychologist in private practice in NYC who specializes in substance and alcohol abuse.  She wanted to know how to  know if it’s become a problem, and if it is, whether we have to give it up . . . forever.

We’ve all read the studies:  moderate alcohol consumption can be part of a healthy lifestyle for many people. Men who have two drinks a day and women who have one are less prone to heart disease, diabetes, gallstones, arthritis and even Alzheimer’s.

But sometimes too much Pinot Noir can be too much of a good thing. As daily consumption increases, the benefits are replaced by risks.

Drinking is on the rise in people over 50 and seems to climb as we get older. Some studies cite retirement, loss of job, divorce and death or declining health of a loved one as just a few of the reasons why. In 2010, 16 percent of people over 65 had a daily drink, compared to 10 percent of 45 to 64 year olds and 2 percent of 16 to 24 year olds. And gender is a factor: women between 45 and 64 drink more than any other age group.

But not all daily drinkers have a drinking problem, and not all problem drinkers drink daily. Even if it’s been 30 years since you felt tipsy, you could be one of the 17.6 million Americans with alcohol dependence. This can manifest as a preoccupation with drinking, changing plans to facilitate it or concealment of habits. If this sounds like you, it might be time to address your relationship with alcohol.

To read Barbara’s Huffington Post interview with Dr. Mark Edison click here.  He has ways to know if you do have a drinking problem and how to get some help if you do.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

MDMA The New Drug of Choice For Elite

by Linda Franklin

MDMA The New Drug of Choice For Elite Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanMDMA or its nickname, Molly is the newest thrill and apparently considered ‘more respectable’ than other hard party drugs..  Sign of the times isn’t it?  Pop a pill and feel better don’t try and figure out the root of the problem.

Known for inducing feelings of euphoria, warmth and diminished anxiety, 3,4-methylenedioxy-N-methylamphetamine has been embraced by everyone from Wall Street traders to Williamsburg hipsters – a trend of great concern to medical professionals.

A recent NY Times feature examining the growing acceptance of Molly on New York’s party scene found most users considered the drug a healthier alternative to other stimulants.

Cocaine is believed to be ‘sort of grimy and passé’ and makes your nose ‘raw’, while marijuana ‘smells.. and is also sort of low rent and junior high’. 

Robert Glatter, an emergency-room physician at Lenox Hill Hospital on the Upper East Side, said more users are being hospitalized than ever before.

He said he sees about four patients a month exhibiting its common side effects, such as teeth grinding, dehydration, anxiety, insomnia, fever and loss of appetite.

The drug in pill, powder or crystalline form costs between $20 and $50 a hit.

‘Typically in the past we’d see rave kids, but now we’re seeing more people into their 30s and 40s experimenting with it,’ Dr. Glatter told NY Times.

‘MDMA use has increased dramatically. It’s really a global phenomenon now.’

He said it is possible to overdose on MDMA, but usually when mixed with another drug.

The molecular breakdown: MDMA atoms are represented as spheres and are colour-coded: carbon (grey), hydrogen (blue-green), oxygen (red) and nitrogen (blue)

Madonna was slammed for asking the audience about Molly during a music festival, while Rick Ross, was dropped by sponsor Reebok for rapping about the drug

Dr. John Halpern, a psychiatrist at Harvard said a major concern is that many of the powders sold as Molly contain no MDMA whatsoever. Medical professionals warn MDMA’s is getting less ‘pure’ as its popularity rises

Despite promises of greater purity and potency, Molly is now thought to be as contaminated as Ecstasy once was..

‘As we move more and more electronic, people are extremely hungry for the opposite: human interaction on a deeper level where you’re not rushing around,’ Mr. Doblin told NY Times.

‘The rise of Molly is in tune with how people are feeling emotionally.’

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Cell Therapy – Can It Turn Back The Clock?

by Linda Franklin

Cell Therapy - Can It Turn Back The Clock? Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanAnti-aging claims are everywhere.  From supplements to creams to cosmetic surgery it’s hard to know what really works and what doesn’t.

One of the options available  is “cell therapy”.  It’s been around for years in different forms but only recently has it become FDA approved as a dietary supplement.

Replacing aging cells with fresh embryonic cells helps to delay many symptoms of aging we all encounter.  These includes an improvement in your complexion,  vitality, muscle strength, sex drive and overall energy levels.

Animal mothers who are chosen donors are pigs because pig cells are closest to human cells.  The chosen ones are only raised on organic pig farms.  The cells when harvested are processed in the embryonic state and then stored in a sterile bottle and refrigerated.  They are not frozen because freezing changes the molecules.  All bottles are then  labelled according to FDA supplement requirements.

Consider embryonic cell therapy if you are experiencing

  • bone loss
  • blood sugar disorders
  • aging skin
  • failing eyesight
  • muscular weakness
  • lack of energy
  • memory loss

Under the care of a knowledgeable practitioner, patients have seen remarkable results.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Aging Youthfully Is Our Choice

by Linda Franklin

Aging Youthfully Is Our Choice Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanWe are all aging and that’s something we can do nothing about.  But, what we do have control over is how we age.

Aging youthfully is our choice.  In fact, lifestyle choices account for 33 percent of how old a woman looks.  Living an unhealthy lifestyle can age a woman’s skin by over ten years, an in-depth international study has just revealed.

The true damage caused by sun beds, smoking, not moisturizing your skin, and not eating enough fruit can accelerate the aging process – not by a little but by a lot.

Dr. Andrew Mayes, who led the study for Simple skin care, said: ‘We already knew genetics accounted for about 50 per cent of how old people look, but we didn’t know how much would be accounted for by their lifestyles.

‘Even we were surprised by just how much it was; both in terms of the number of years and the percentage.’

The study which was carried out over the last eight years involved women aged 45 to 75 in the UK, Spain and China.

Those who took part were asked a string of questions about their lifestyles including whether or not they liked to sun tan and if they were smokers or non-smokers.

Other questions included how often the women used moisturizer, whether they eat fruit and vegetables, how often they brush their teeth and if they have all their own teeth.

The research team also took digital images of the women which were then assessed for how old they looked to identify their perceived age and whether they looked younger or older than their actual age.

When they got their data the research team compared the perceived ages of those with good versus bad lifestyles.

They concluded the difference was 10.4 years. Dr. Mayes said, “The number of years’ difference was most staggering.  We had just seen some data out of a group of plastic surgeons in the US and Canada suggesting that a face and neck lift (together with eyelid and forehead modifications) could take an average of about 8.5 years off your facial age.

‘Then we got our data through demonstrating a saving of over 10 years. It’s fair to say at first we couldn’t quite believe it”.

‘Simply put; good skin health is about more than fancy creams and lotions – it’s about how we live our lives and how we treat our bodies and the steps we need to take do not need to be extreme.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Stop Wrinkles Dead In Their Tracks

by Linda Franklin

Stop Wrinkles Dead In Their Tracks Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanYou hear it all the time – slather on the sunscreen before you leave the house.  You might be delusional and think you are immune to the sun’s harmful rays, but skin cancer is very real.  And, using sunscreen is very beneficial for another reason near and dear to most women.  It keeps us looking younger.  Now it has been proven sunscreen stops wrinkles dead in their tracks.

A new Australian study has found the daily use of sunscreen significantly slows the aging of skin caused by the sun’s ultraviolet rays..

‘This has been one of those beauty tips you often hear quoted, but for the first time we can back it with science,’ Queensland Institute of Medical Research senior scientist and lead author of the trial Adele Green said.

The study found that adults who regularly applied broad spectrum sunscreen – which protects against both ultraviolet B and ultraviolet A rays – over a four-and-a-half year period had no detectable aging of the skin. 

They also had 24 per cent less skin aging than people who used sunscreen less frequently, according to study.

The randomized, controlled trial, published Monday in Annals of Internal Medicine, is the first study of its kind. Previously, the only scientific evidence for the beneficial effects of sun screen on wrinkling was in hairless mice.

The researchers randomly assigned 903 adults, ages 25-55, to use SPF15+ every day on their face, arms and hands with frequent reapplication or to use sunscreen at their discretion.

Silicone impressions, or molds, were taken from the backs of all participants’ hands at the start and end of the trial to grade the damage over the four-and-a-half years of the study.

The adults were all aged under 55 to ensure the changes noted were primarily due to photo-aging rather than chronological aging.

The researchers found those using daily sunscreen were 24 per cent less likely to show increased wrinkling over the period.

Regardless of sex, age, skin color, occupation, skin cancer history, weight and smoking, everyone benefited from daily sunscreen use. ‘And the study has shown that up to middle age, it’s not too late to make a difference,’ Green said.

Any sunscreen stronger than SPF15+ might have had only a marginal additional effect, according to Green as SPF15+ blocks about 94 percent of ultraviolet B rays, which are responsible for sunburn, while one with an SPF of 40 filters about 97.5 percent.

And don’t forget this important warning.  Apply sunscreen well and reapply often.

Previous research suggested that sunscreen could lull sun-worshipers into a false sense of safety, and see them staying out longer in the sun.

‘The sunscreen has to be applied thick enough and in all areas to be effective,’ Dr. Thomas Ruenger, a professor of dermatology at Boston University, told NBC News.

Ruenger recommends using a broad spectrum sunscreen with an SPF of 20 or 30 and reapplying every two hours and after sweating or bathing.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Women Unhappy With Their Body Image

by Linda Franklin

Women Unhappy With Their Body ImageDid you ever meet a woman who was satisfied with her body?  I haven’t.  You think you are too big here, too small there, and whatever you do to look better –  it’s never enough.

But, how deep do these insecurities really lie and how much do they affect our day-to-day lives?

Dr. Bijal Chheda-Varma, a psychologist specializing in body image at London’s Capio Nightingale Hospital, decided to find out using the silhouette test.  She says: ‘The silhouette test is widely used among psychologists because it’s a very simple way to determine how unhappy a woman is with her shape’.

The women involved in the test were asked to identify the size they think they are from a range of body shapes, ranked from one to nine (with one being very underweight and nine very overweight).

Women Unhappy With Their Body Image Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanNext, they were asked to pick the size they’d like to be.

The difference between the two numbers is their body dissatisfaction score and, with a little computer trickery, they were shown how they see their bodies compared to reality.

‘Basically, the bigger the gap between the shape a woman thinks she is and the shape she’d like to be, the more upset she is about her body. Most women tend to have a distorted view.

‘While men tend to be more accurate, the average woman is likely to pick a shape one or two points from reality.

According to Dr Chheda-Varma, body dissatisfaction in women is on the rise.

She says: ‘I’m seeing a growing number who do not have eating disorders, but even so they have increasing body dissatisfaction scores.

‘They often come to me for different reasons, like depression and anxiety, and it emerges that body image and food consumption are underlying factors.

‘From what these women tell me, it’s clear how the high standards they are setting themselves and how anxious the pressure to be perfect can make women feel.’

Ladies, what we do to ourselves is criminal.  You have to ask yourself why are you so hard on yourself?

. The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.