Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot

by Linda Franklin

Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot Linda Franklin, The Real Cougar Woman Allure did another one of those fluffy surveys.  This time it was to find out how men and women really feel about a woman’s changing looks, the effects of plastic surgery, and whether sex gets better with age.  Allure polled 2,000 people nationwide.

Survey says:

– women believe their beauty peaks at 31 – but agree with men that 30 is the most seductive age for a woman.

– men are the most confident in bed between the ages of 50 and 69, while women experience their peak of sexual confidence between age 18 and 29.

-57% of the men and women polled agreed that sex gets better with age, only a third of male baby boomers said they were attracted to women their own age.

-36% of men between 18 and 29 say that ‘cougars are hot’.

-women are more pressured to look young.

-grey hair makes a women look old, but on a man it’s considered distinguished…although 63% of men color their hair to look younger, compared to only 36% of women.

Overall, 70% of men and women say they take non-invasive anti-aging measures, and only 1% admit to getting cosmetic surgery, injections and/or laser treatments.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Middle Age Sexy Is The Best

by Linda Franklin

Middle Age Sexy Is The Best  Linda Franklin, The RealCougarWomanIt seems that scarcely a day passes without seeing a survey on some aspect of the middle-aged female experience. Maybe we should feel grateful, because according to one of the surveys I read, pollsters are the only people who find ladies of a certain age even slightly interesting.

This is a sad commentary, but unfortunately it’s true.  Of 2,000 women who were surveyed, most agreed that 46 is the age that they become invisible to men.. 

The good news (according to this survey) is that by the time we get to 60 we start feeling better. That’s the good news????  How about the 14 years we are sitting crying in our beer?  If we’re smart, and I know we are, we won’t let that happen.  We will appreciate who we are, the woman we have grown into at any age we happen to be.

None of us can turn back the clock.  In my middle 40’s, I believed I could.   I was wrong.   I had to figure out for myself, and we all do, how to hold onto your sexy and that fire in your belly.

Here’s a couple of tips I’ll pass on to you if you’re feeling blue because of our age:

  • Play up your assets – now it’s time to do what feels good to you  – it’s your turn
  • Stop Listening to the naysayers who say life is over at 50
  • Don’t hold on to relationships that no longer nurture your soul
  • Change your look – go from just OK to sexy sophisticated
  • Take a risk – get out of your head – say screw you to the fear  – and watch what happens

We are powerful, fabulous females and even though we may have to play up different assets as we go through the decades, our confidence, our sexy, and appreciation of life will shine through.  Your passion for life will be recognized.

I am convinced that middle-aged women of today are creating another template for aging and it’s not what the pollsters are telling us.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Pre-Oscar Red Carpet Beauty Treatments

by Linda Franklin

Pre-Oscar Red Carpet Beauty Treatments  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanSunday night some of us will be glued to the TV for the Red Carpet Star Walk.  I imagine that the A-list women, who prepare for this event for months, will be breathing a huge sigh of relief when it’s finally over.

The Los Angeles practioners who administer the treatments are bombarded with clients for weeks prior weeks before to the big event.  That’s good news for them.  Ka-Ching.

To get clients red carpet-ready, Nurse Jamie, a registered nurse and the co-owner of Beauty Park Medical Spa in Santa Monica, California, says every appointment is like a racing car pit stop.  ‘We usually have two or three people in the room, no-one has time, so we have one person tightening the body and another giving a treatment on the face’.

Here is a list of the 10 favorite procedures used to make the stars shine brighter – well at least for one night.

Baby Drop Fillers: A special ‘Gucci’ needle and baby drops of filler can smooth wrinkles even on the day of an event. Nurse Jamie uses a hyaluronic acid- based filler for natural, bruise-free results.

Head-to-Toe Instant Tightening: A ‘non-surgical team’ of registered nurses will tighten every inch with a radio frequency device. Nurse Jamie says: ‘Instantly the skin looks incredibly taut and there is no downtime.’

Botox Lite: ‘For a softer, more relaxed look, we inject tiny amounts of the toxin into multiple areas of the forehead,’ Nurse Jamie says. ‘This way, people still have full motion… without the skin looking like an accordion!’

Vitamin IM Injection Facial: An aesthetician tends to the skin, while a registered nurse administers an IM injection, which includes B Vitamins and Vitamin C. It’s better to take them together rather than one at a time. It helps to maintain collagen and protect the skin from sun damage.

Zit Killer: On its own, the acclaimed ‘cort shot’ (cortisone injection) can shrink colossal zits with in 48 hours. As a follow up, skin is smoothed with the Near Infrared light.

Cue the ‘Q’: This is the no downtime facelift. It target redness in the skin and works wonders on the skin’s texture and tone. If a star can’t get in to see Jamie, she tells them to pick up a EGF Stem Cell Repair serum and Beauty Stamp which uses a similar technology.

Vaginal Rejuvenation: ‘Before you pass judgement on this treatment, apparently this  includes front-to-back skin tightening in the bikini area and removal of ingrown hairs, skin tags and discoloration.

Body Fat Tightening: ‘We’ll essentially redo the entire surface of their body,’ says Jamie, who uses radio frequency to tighten loose skin. Also in demand is i-Lipo, a fat-busting device that targets belly bulges and love handles.

Electric Facials: This facial uses different types of current to boost radiance, enhance lymphatic drainage, kill acne bacteria, wipe out dark circles, and even spark cellular repair.

Bacteria-Busting Facials: Facials with extractions can trigger more blemishes than they treat. Jamie’s team applies gauze dipped in liquid nitrogen to kill bacterial and sooth the skin.

Phew!! My body is tingling just writing about these beauty fixes.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
 

 

 
 

 

Dare To Bare – How Much Is Too Much

by Linda Franklin

Dare To Bare - How Much Is Too Much Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanSkin, skin and more skin.  Whether it’s on the red carpet or just walking down the street, women are popping out all over.  So, before you leave the house look into your mirror and ask yourself – how much is too much, especially if you are forty and beyond.

If your clothes are too revealing,  you are most likely sending out the dreaded “desperate vibe”.  But, on the other hand,  if you’re too buttoned up and drab you just fade into the woodwork and don’t get noticed at all.

So how do you know what’s right for you?  How about this. Wear an outfit that reveals 40 percent of your skin and you will get just the right amount of attention.

To arrive at this 40 percent benchmark Leeds University psychologist Colin Hendrie sent four female researchers to one of their city’s biggest nightclubs. They documented on video what the women were wearing and how many times they were approached by the men.

Seventy hours of recordings later it was revealed that women who showed off 40 percent of their skin were asked to dance twice as much as women who were covered up or too exposed.

I have always said, ‘bling and cleavage is not the way to attract the man of your dreams’.  Now research is confirming it.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Hair Extensions – The Bloody Truth

by Linda Franklin

Hair Extensions - The Bloody Truth Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanHair extensions can add fullness and length to otherwise sad-looking locks, but the health hazards that accompany the popular beauty aid can far out-way the rewards.

From blinding headaches, to patchy hair loss and sometimes permanent damage, doctors are now warning about the dangers of hair extensions, the must-have accessory of celebrities on the red carpet.

Neurologist, Dr. Orly Avitzur of Terrytown, N.Y., who is also the medical adviser for Consumer Reports, told ABC News: ‘If you start to get hair loss, then stop immediately. The risk of going bald is great”.’

Hair extensions, where synthetic or real hair is attached onto a person’s existing hair or scalp by weaving, gluing, sewing or clipping it on, first became popular with actresses, but the treatment has quickly moved on to the mainstream.  Women everywhere are using them.

Permanent damage from hair extensions is known as Traction Alopecia.  Apparently the weight and tension on the wearer’s hair follicles can cause permanent damage and prevent hair regrowth.

One 46-year-old New York social worker, who prefers not to be named, said she ran to the doctor with blinding headaches. After blood work and an MRI scan of the brain checked out as normal, there was no explanation for the sudden pounding in the patient’s head.

She was sent to Dr Avitzur, who explained: ‘When I went to examine her and simply touched her scalp, she pulled away and winced when my fingertips touched her quite gently.

‘She had hundreds of these tightly braided hair braids. It was pretty clear to me that she did not need a work-up, but that she needed to remove her extensions.

The procedure, costing anywhere from a couple of hundred dollars to several thousand, can be successful, however it is important to make sure the stylist attaches the extensions using a method that is tailored to your specific hair type.

If they’re attached too tightly, or weigh too much, problems can develop quickly.

Chicago cosmetologist Grace Santiler-Nowik, the president of the Professional Beauty Association’s Professional Council,explained: ‘It’s not something you tread into lightly. People want their hair thick and long, but they forget there’s a whole upkeep portion of it they have to maintain.’

Ms Santiler-Nowik emphasized that customers must return to the salon at regular intervals to have the extensions removed and replaced, and need to take a break from the hair pieces if they’re causing damage to a person’s hair.

‘I think it’s important for people to get education, there’s always a safe way to do things and a smart way to do things,’ she said.

Even Jennifer Aniston, who first gave the extensions a go as her character Rachel in Friend’s, is weary of the procedure.

She told Harper’s Bazaar: ‘I decided to have a couple of extensions, never knowing you would end up with 400 things in your head that cause your hair to break off. Nothing destroys your hair faster than extensions.’

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Aging Ain’t Easy – But It Can Be Fun

by Linda Franklin

Sixty Really Isn't The New 40 by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDo you sometimes catch a glimpse of yourself as you walk by a store window and ask yourself – who is that woman?  She looks familiar but you’re not quite sure who she is.  Then reality takes a big bite out of your ego  because that woman looking back at you is YOU.

Aging ain’t easy – it takes a lot of effort to do it successfully.  But as I like to say, the juice is well worth the sqeeze.

As I get older,  I find the disparity between how I feel on the inside and how I look on the outside grows ever greater.   Gravity is definitely having its way with me and I don’t like it.

It’s scary heading for senior status in a society that places such a premium on youth.  Women over 60 complain how they become invisible, — unless, of course, they happen to be Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda or Helen Mirren.

Each of us  has to decide what’s right for us in everything we do and that includes aging.  Do you succumb to or do you everything in your power to hold back the clock?

Unlike our mothers’ and grandmother’s generation, there’s no one way to present  yourself as a 60-plus woman today.  We have so many options in the way we dress, how we spend our leisure time, how we take care of our face and our bodies and last but certainly not least, how we keep our spiritual reservoir full.

The majority of women I know who are 60 and above are still working.  Many of them because they choose to – many because they have to.  With the economy the way it is, extending the earning years is a harsh reality and woman need to think about how much they will need to take care of their needs going forward.

It’s interesting too that the divorce rate of folks 60-plus has increased.  Starting over no matter how old you are, is becoming increasingly common. Fifty and sixty somethings are busy exploring on-line dating, with many discovering finding a new love interest is no easy task.

The   bottom line is you really are as young as you feel.  It’s never too late for new fun adventures so go out, take a chance and embrace change because it’s going to happen whether you like it or not.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Vitamin D Essential For Women Over 50

Vitamin D Essentiall For Women Over 50 The Real Cougar WomanSome great news was just released that is sure to make big believers in the power of vitamin D smile… and maybe just a little smug. Not only is this little “vitamin that could” essential for keeping our brain cells healthy and percolating as we age, but taken with calcium, it offers a host of other health benefits, too.

I got to know firsthand what combining vitamin D with calcium and strength training could do after I was diagnosed with osteopenia (a short train ride away from osteoporosis) when I turned 50 a few years ago. After following a daily program of taking the supplements, eating calcium-rich foods and doing push-ups (and a few other strengthening exercises), I stopped that osteoporsis train right in its tracks. Here’s the scoop…

The results of a major double-blind study by The Women’s Health Initiative (WHI), which will appear in the next issue of Osteoporosis International, confirms that taking a combination of vitamin D3 and calcium every day not only offers tremendous health benefits, but is safe.

Conducted over seven years, the WHI study involved giving 36,282 postmenopausal women 1,000 mg of calcium plus 400 IU of vitamin D3 daily to test whether taken together and every day would reduce hip fracture, and secondarily, total fracture and colorectal cancer.

Results? The risk of hip fractures was reduced by a whopping 38% in women over 50. According to the study’s authors, “Long-term use of calcium and vitamin D appears to confer a reduction that may be substantial in the risk of hip fracture among postmenopausal women.”

Additionally, the study will reassure doctors and women who have been worried about the potential negative health impact vitamin D and calcium might have by showing that taken supplementally is safe without increased risk of myocardial infraction, cardiovascular disease or cardiovascular death. The risk of kidney stones or urinary tract infections, which has been previously studied and documented, appear to be modest and not something average postmenopausal women need to be concerned about.

To read the full report, click here.

What should you do with this information? The National Osteoporosis Foundation (NOF), the leading resource for news, information and education about bone disease, recommends the following simple steps:

  • Know your numbers: Have vitamin D and calcium levels checked at your next physical exam and talk with your primary care physician about how much calcium and vitamin D3 to take.
  • Eat for strength: In addition to taking vitamin D and calcium supplements, eat plenty of dark, leafy greens (kale, chard, broccoli are great choices), and lots of fruits and vegetables.
  • Drink in moderation: Limit alcohol to no more than two drinks a day, and for sure, don’t smoke.
  • Get strong: Try gentle running (or fast-paced walking) for 30 minutes for cardio health and weight control, but make sure to include strength-training in your fitness program. One of the most important exercises you’ll ever do is the old-fashion push-up. Here’s a short video showing how to do both the modified and the full push-up:

WATCH: Push-Up Tips

For more information about combating osteoporosis as we age, visit the National Osteoporosis Foundation website.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.