Identifying Your Sexual Personality

by Linda Franklin

Identifying Your Sexual Personality Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanI never really thought about it but apparently, we all have a sexual personality.  And, understanding yours (and your partner’s) is the key to having great sex together.

Here are the differently categories your sexual personality fall into:


Catch you on a good day and you’re an exciting, seductive creature who mesmerizes and dazzles your lovers with bucket loads of confidence, extraordinary technique and unbridled enthusiasm. The downside is you’re a little self-absorbed and like to be top of the game in everything you do – including sex.

Is this you?

  • Are you pretty much up for anything? You like talking dirty, watching porn, trying out sex toys and having sex outside?
  • When you ask ‘How was it for you?’ do you really mean ‘How was I?’…?
  • Do you see sex as a source of pleasure, fun and a great way to connect to your partner? 


Cautious and cooperative, as the name suggests, you’ll do anything for a peaceful life. Kind and generous, you initially present as heaven on a stick – especially to someone who’s just emerged, bruised and battered from a relationship with a demanding energizer. But – unusually – you’d rather give than receive pleasure. You don’t like talking about sex problems and tend to clam up.

Is this you?

  • Do you get more pleasure giving than receiving?
  • Do you feel uncomfortable speaking up about what you need your partner to do to satisfy you?
  • Do partners often ask if you enjoy having sex with them because they’re not sure?


For you, sex is more about expressing love and feelings than it is physical release. You’re less interested in sexual performance and more focused on the emotional benefits of sex: intimacy rather than orgasm is your aim.

Is this you?

  • Are you more inclined to cuddle up than initiate sex?
  • Does the emotional temperature have to be just right before you can get in the mood for sex?
  • Are you more interested in romantic sex than lusty or ‘dirty’ sex?


It’s not that you don’t enjoy sex, it’s just something that’s often fraught with anxiety. You often feel under pressure to perform and worry you’re inadequate – both in how you look and what you’re doing in bed.

Is this you?

  • Do you have a naturally low libido – or none at all?
  • Have you had some distressing sexual encounters in your past and think of sex as something to be feared or disliked?
  • Is your self-esteem low both in bed and out of it? 


You like routine both in and out of the bedroom and the feeling of being in control. You dislike change and find it quite stressful so the impromptu sexual surprise that would thrill others, instead freaks you out. Predictable sex that follows a tried-and-true set pattern is your idea of sexual nirvana.

Is this you?

  • Do you feel threatened or insulted if your partner wants to try something new?
  • Can you only orgasm through a particular, often quite specific technique?
  • Do you like to be in control of your emotions generally? 
If you don’t fall into any of these categories, please feel free to comment on other options.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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