In these days of equal education, opportunities and access to professional careers, women are still expecting (and receiving) huge and continuing settlements when a marriage ends.
I consider myself an advocate for women, but I don’t see why today’s divorcing women should expect any kind of settlement at all.
If modern marriage is an equal partnership, divorce should be the same, surely, with both parties getting out what they have put in, as when any other type of contract ends.
Yet modern women are still positioning themselves as the weaker of the two sexes having to be kept by a big strong man, whether married or divorced. We have fought for equality, and many battles have been won, but divorcing women are still portraying pathetic little housewives unable to fend for themselves, before ruthlessly fleecing the men they once professed to love.
Want to secure a juicy settlement? Based on the Heather Mills principle, have a kid. The presence of a child will ensure generous maintenance payments for years, maybe decades, to come.
It’s easy for an attractive woman to use her charm and wiles to entrap a rich man, all the time calculating the cash they receive when they can call time on the marriage. Why can’t they women give that kind of forethought into developing careers and financial independence rather than sponging off someone else?
The bulk of women are married to ordinary earners and they too can be set up for years with the house, car, custody of children and a regular lump sum in their accounts.
Some divorcees are reluctant to remarry, in case they kill the goose that lays the golden egg — maintenance usually stops when you have another husband to support you — so they are content with boyfriends and lovers.
When a wife has been brutally dumped, there might be greater grounds for sympathy. But these days, an estimated 70 per cent of divorces are brought by women. What are these women being paid for, when no longer married?
One woman, let’s call her Jane, was married for about 20 years when she decided she wanted a divorce. There were no particular grounds, and no one else was involved. Both parties got a lawyer, and Jane was awarded 85 per cent of the joint assets. There were no children and she had never worked.
In 2013, women who demand everything and expect maintenance forever after, should hang their heads in shame. We must prove to ourselves that we are not simpering victims, but proud, strong and, above all, financially independent females.
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