It’s a personal problem for many and a cultural problem for all. You may think you have not been affected by porn, but you have because it’s embedded in the surrounding culture. The staggering size of the pornography industry, its influence upon the media and the acceleration of technology, paired with the accessibility, anonymity, and affordability of porn all contribute to its increasing impact.
Cosmopolitan magazine questioned 68 leading sex and relationship experts about the effects of porn on today’s relationship, and the result was overwhelmingly negative.
As porn is now so easily accessible, Cosmopolitan was also told that ‘vanilla’ sex is becoming less desirable, while porn addiction – once seen a very niche sexual problem – is on the increase.
Pornography affects you whether you’ve ever viewed it or not, and it is helpful to understand some of its negative effects, whether you are a man or woman, struggling with watching it.. Here are six things to be aware of:
1. Porn Contributes to Social and Psychological Problems
Dr. William Struthers, who has a PhD in biopsychology from the University of Illinois at Chicago, finds that men who use porn become controlling, highly introverted, have high anxiety, narcissistic, curious, have low self-esteem, depressed, dissociative, distractible. Ironically, while viewing porn creates momentary intensely pleasurable experiences, it ends up leading to several negative lingering psychological experiences.
2. Porn Rewires the Male Brain
As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on pornographic images, the exposure to them creates neural pathways. Over time these neural paths become wider with each exposure to pornography. They then become the automatic pathway through which interactions with woman are routed. They have unknowingly created a neurological circuit that imprisons their ability to see women as they really are.
3. Porn Turns Sex Into Masturbation
Sex becomes self-serving. It becomes about your pleasure and not the mutually reciprocating intimacy that it was designed for.
4. Porn Demeans and Objectifies Women
Men and women who were exposed to large amounts of pornography were significantly less likely to want daughters than those who had none. Who would want their own little girl to be treated that way?”
5. Porn Destroys the Beauty of a Real Naked Woman
For most of history, the erotic images have been reflections of, or celebrations of, or celebrations of real naked women. For the first time in history, the images’ have supplanted that of real naked women.
6. Porn Has Numbing Effect on Reality
It makes real sex boring in comparison. It particularly anesthetizes the emotional life of a man.
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