Good news for anyone who’s had sex on a first date. A new study has uncovered a rather surprising result: couples who slept together on the first night were just as likely to end up happy long-term as couples who put off doing the deed until they became more serious.
So, for all you not-so-good girls who have spent the next day doing the ‘walk of shame’ paranoid and panicking that the guy won’t call because he got what he wanted – take a deep breath and relax.
Sometimes, you meet someone and it feels so right and so natural, sex just happens. We’re all adults, right?
Ideally, we’d all date each other (minus sex) until both are reasonably sure you’re compatible, want the same thing out of the relationship and, most importantly, think you might make each other happy. This requires logical thinking and objectivity.
Good sex rather effectively robs us of both instantly. It’s extremely difficult to look at your new partner sensibly and objectively while their tongue is working its way up your thigh.
Psychologists call this ‘lust blindness’. You get so involved with your partner’s body, you forget to look closely at the person inside it. It’s how people end up emotionally involved with people they later find out are bad for them – the ‘I don’t like him but I’m in love with him’ feeling.
Another key finding of the study published in the Journal of Social Science Research was that for love to blossom from first-night sex, both people had to be open to the idea of a committed relationship. So instead of plotting a hasty embarrassed exit, you’re actually better off staying put and snuggling up.
I’m not a big fan of these studies so take it for what it’s worth.
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