According to a new survey men who look for sex online, rather than other places, refer to themselves as “hobbyists”. In this survey the nearly 600 men participating were mainly white, middle-aged, highly educated and pulling in six figures.
“Hobbyists” are primarily concerned that a provider has “a happy and cheerful personality.” Christine Milrod, a psychotherapist and one of the lead authors on the study, talks about the so-called Girlfriend Experience, in which sex workers provide the illusion of a more romantic, cash-free transaction — and why the “hobbyists” are drawn to it.
Mildrod says, “these men are not doing anything they couldn’t be doing at home. They are just bored. The kissing, the fact that they engage in penile-vaginal sex more often than fellatio, is important, because most studies show, they can’t get a blow job at home so they have to get it from someone else.” That’s not true for these men”.
Paying for sex or accepting money for sex is basically an illegal activity. This group of men don’t want it feel like it’s like a prostitution encounter, even though they’re paying for it. So there is some contradiction here: They want a girlfriend, but at the same time they’re paying for it. How do do they reconcile that? Perhaps they feel that they are consorting with a woman who is in her sexual prime, who really wants to have sex, and isn’t just doing it for the money.
The men want the woman to be romantic and tender: 78.5 percent said that. They want her to be upbeat and cheerful. Not even a third said they want her to be enthusiastic about trying a variety of sexual activities. What they want was a rushed session, having her take calls or being emotionally cold.
So the conclusion is – this population of men are concerned a great deal more about the emotion than performing outlandish sexual acts. The bulk of the men surveyed were 50 to 69, and over 66 percent were married. Their average salary was $141,510 and almost half had a graduate degree.
The difference between these “hobbyists” and the larger population of men who pay for sex is they are richer, highly education and want to be with a woman who really likes sex.
Guess it’s not rocket science. Men want to be with the hot chick who wants them and they are willing to pay for the illusion.
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