Dating after divorce can be daunting. You’ve been sequestered in a relationship for decades and here you are about to embark on a whole new life. For some, this transition might be easier than others, but I’ll bet all women over a certain age are terrified about exposing their naked bodies to a new man.
It’s hard for us to believe that any man will see you as sexual being when all you see is every little imperfection in your body. Every bit of cellulite, every spider vein, every sag that you make you cringe.
Friends can tell you that you are a total babe and any man would be lucky to have you. But, until you believe it yourself you will be scared to death to let a man near you. The sexual confidence that accompanies youth recedes when your body shows any signs of wear and tear.
We forget that physical attraction has as much to do with personality and confidence as it does your appearance.
According to psychologist Dr Sharron Hinchliff, a lecturer at Sheffield University who has spent 12 years researching female sexuality and aging, women in mid-life who are apprehensive about venturing into new relationships because they lack confidence in their bodies should take heart — men are not impervious to the passing years, either.
‘The women in our study reconciled the awareness of their own expanding waistlines and aging bodies with the fact their new partners might have a bit of a paunch or a bald spot,’ she says, ‘It’s quite possible they also had their own sexual hang-ups and difficulties, such as erectile dysfunction. Women often overlook the very obvious fact that men age, too.’
Now, what if you have set your sights on a younger man like many women are these days? Well, they are not immune to insecurities either. Their fears of rejection often surpass your own. They want to please you but don’t know how to do it. I get emails from lots of guys who want my advice on how to please an older woman in every way.
So, you just have to take that leap of faith. Get back out there, be yourself and have confidence that you will attract the right men into your life. Confidence is a huge turn on.
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