Sexless marriages caused by physical problems are often curable with medication, but a lack of sex caused by relationship issues is a sign of a deep seeded trouble.
Too often it’s the woman who gets the blame for a sexless marriage but, what happens when the tables are turned? When a wife starts asking her husband why he doesn’t want sex with her he will often come out with lame excuses like, “I’m too tired”, “I’m too stressed” “It’s too late ” or just ignore her completely and turn over go to sleep. That lack of communication is like a knife to a woman’s heart.
It’s no secret that men have problems revealing their inner feelings so they usually prefer to hide the truth. They also know that telling their wife the real reasons he is not having sex with her will bring everything else that is wrong with their marriage to the surface.
Here are a few of the more common reasons men stop having sex with their wives.
The husband is angry with his wife.
Think about it, do you like to make love with someone with whom you are angry? Some men are so angry and frustrated with their wife for one reason or another that avoiding sex with their wife becomes a weapon to be used against them.
He is angry because his wife treats him badly.
Nobody wants to be the punching bag for someone who is controlling and critical. Constant criticism and nagging from his wife will erode at the husband’s self-esteem. He will feel deep resentment because of her insensitive behaviour and this will cause him to avoid sex with his wife in reprisal.
He is angry because his wife is lazy and selfish.
Some men get angry with their wives because they are lazy and spoiled and do not contribute meaningfully to the marriage. These types of women are only interested in their own needs and give very little back emotionally so the husband will eventually do the same.
He is angry because his wife lies to him.
A married man may also stop having sex with his wife because she is deceitful and untruthful to him. She may lie about money and debts and create financial hardship with her feckless money management. Arguments about money problems are one of the main reasons for marriages ending.
Good marriages thrive on openness and honesty and when either a wife or husband constantly lies to their spouse about anything, it eats away at the foundation of the marriage. After all, if you can’t trust the person who is supposed to be your life partner then how can you respect and love them?
He has childhood abuse issues he doesn’t want to deal with.
He no longer physically attracted
A man loses his attraction for his wife for every reason above, but add to that, she has also stopped taking care of herself. The wedding ring doesn’t give your permission to let yourself go.
Couples who find themselves in a sexless marriage sometimes try couple’s counselling to get to the root of their problems. Unfortunately, I have not heard of too many successful outcomes going down that road. Usually one person is willing to work at resolving the issues while the other just comes along for the ride. Blaming each other never works. It takes two people to work equally hard at saving the relationship. Saving it because it’s worth saving, not because they are afraid of the consequences of calling it quits.
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