Friends with benefits or friends with “benies” or friends for cut – it’s all the same thing. In theory FWB’s is a mutual practical arrangement for satisfying each others sexual needs without the usual bothersome expectations of love, romance, or in most cases – monogamy.
The thing is, FWB’s don’t always provide equal benefits for both parties involved. But, nevertheless these arrangements are becoming more popular.
Most women, not all, too often confuse sex with love. Whether or not they admit it, we are suckers for emotional attachment. It’s hard for us to keep our hearts under wraps when we are putting ourselves in such a vulnerable position. Even the hard-hearted-hannahs do get their hearts broken. It’s painful knowing we don’t rank high on our lover’s priority list. We are a convenience when time permits.
Here’s a couple of reasons people decide to switch from being just friends to FWB’s:
- both agree from there is no emotional attachment so there is no pie-in-the-sky expectations
- you have recently come out of a breakup or a divorce are ready to sex, but not a relationship
If you are considering the switch, ask yourself these tought questions:
- Is this FWB relationship just a rest stop on the way to something better?
- Is this relationship one that makes me happy?
- Is this all I can expect at my age?
I suppose the success of an FWB relationship depends completely on the two people involved and the ground rules they establish. For some it may be just what the doctor ordered, while for others just an another bump on an already hazardous emotional roller-coaster.
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