Is there a person on the planet who doesn’t want to be happy? Probably not. But is it possible to be happy all the time? Some claim it is. And those are the people who are attracting prosperity in everything they touch.
True happiness is not about being perpetually perky. But it also not about with the momentary ecstasy we might feel when our team scores a goal, or we make an impulse buy of some fabulous shoes.
The real deal is all about a deeper sense of contentment and, and about valuing ourselves, and others. It’s also about looking for positives in situations, and feeling confident that we have the resilience to deal with life’s more challenging moments. And this, I believe, is achievable for all.
Awful things happen to even the most optimistic of us. And being a happy person does not prevent anguish and heartbreak when your dog dies, or you lose your job, or when you have problems with a partner. But, individuals who are optimistic do tend to deal with life’s downturns better than people with a less upbeat default setting.
The Greek Stoic philosopher Epictetus said: ‘It’s not things that upset us, it’s our view of things.’ In other words, happiness actually involves our own attitudes and choices.
It’s marvellous if someone loves us, or we get a promotion; and it’s natural that such benefits augment our happiness. But none of us should regard these sorts of events as essential to our contentment. When we do, we live in dread that they will be snatched away.
Good news. Less than two decades ago, it was commonplace to believe that the brain was fully formed by the age of 25 and that it couldn’t develop or grow after that. But now, thanks to developments in neuroscience, we know that the brain can form new neural connections through life. And we also know that when a person deliberately thinks of something joyful, the brain becomes more active in the part of its structure that registers happiness.
It’s not too far-fetched to believe that if we keep thinking cheerful thoughts, we can exercise and grow the happy section of our brain.
In his book Science Of Happiness, physicist Stefan Klein says: ‘Unhappiness comes on its own, but we have to work for happiness.’
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