Last Friday night, Madonna, of all people, admitted to this – “even if we are sophisticated, educated, evolved human beings, we still in the back of our minds think Mr Right is going to rush in and sweep us off our feet. ‘If you have half a brain, you know real love doesn’t exist, but I can see myself walking down the aisle again.”
Now, it could well be that the Material Girl was merely faking a belief in the idea of a great love because she was promoting her film W.E., depicting the affair between Edward and Mrs Simpson. But maybe not.
Madonna still feels, at 53, that she is attractive and has a lot to give a man. She has conquered every career mountain it is possible to assail, and now wants to focus on relationship. She has an amazing lifestyle but is beginning to realize it’s not as much fun doing it alone.
She has been wounded and betrayed by men, but is still willing to believe she has not yet met the right one. ‘We keep getting disappointed,’ she said. ‘But we still hold out hope that, next time, he will be The One.’
She isn’t the only woman who has that sense of longing, that hope that one day her knight in shining armor will come and sweep her away to the Magic Kingdom.
But, does a great love really exist out here in the real world, away from the silver screen or between the pages of romantic fiction? Why do we find it so hard to find the great love we’re still holding out for? Well, for one, we are perfectionists.
The thing that breaks apart many relationships is the desire for everything to be perfect – and there is no such thing. How could we expect one human being to be the perfect man? Always disappointed, like Madonna, too many of us never made relationships a priority. We believed that success, money, power and nice things would be enough. Unfortunately, we have discovered they aren’t.
But don’t give up hope – happiness isn’t that elusive. It begins with refocusing your priority list. When you are happy with yourself you won’t be as critical with the man in your life..
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