Lisa spent 15 years alone after her husband died and thought she would never have sex again. Then, at age 71, she met a wonderful partner and has fallen madly in love again. She should be thrilled right? She is – but the rest of the world seems less happy.
Both Lisa and her guy both have children who are having problems with their parents intimacy. They roll their eyes when they kiss, and when Lisa tries to talk to her daughter about her new love she says she ‘can’t cope’.
Why are people so hostile to older lovers?
We’re told ‘all the world loves a lover’, but that doesn’t ring true if the courting couples are 60-plus and don’t restrict their PDAs (public displays of affection) to holding hands.
There’s a misconceived cultural prejudice which leads some people to think older people who have sex are behaving inappropriately.
It’s difficult for a chid of any age to accept their mother being physically familiar.
Paul McCartney’s offspring weren’t exactly delighted by his puppyish displays of attraction (in the early days of the courtship) to Heather Mills — they felt it was disrespectful to Linda McCartney’s memory. His new bride, Nancy Shevell, has been far more diplomatic and has won the family’s approval.
Lisa’s daughter reluctance to discuss your partner is, on the face of things, unfair, but not unusual. She wants you to be her mother, not a girlfriend and confidante.
If you’re lucky enough to find love, celebrate it; the point about growing older is you finally have the confidence to make bold choices.
Just remember in your bliss to be sensitive about the fact your families need time to adjust to the new landscape. When they have, I am sure they will share your joy.
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