By Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman
Couples who live together before getting married could be behind the falling divorce rate, research suggests. I have always been a proponent of living together. Why not spend the time to see if you are compatible before tying the knot?
The report said: “There has been a decline in recent years in the proportion of marriages ending in separation or divorce by the fifth anniversary. We suggest as a hypothesis that the growth of cohabitation may have played a role in this incipient decline.’
These days one in six couples co-habit compared to fewer than one in 100 adults under the age of 50 in the early 1960s when it was seen as socially deviant.’ And, about 80 per cent of couples today have spent time living under the same roof before cementing their relationship legally through a marriage ceremony.
I guess I was one of the so-called deviants because I lived with my husband for 20 years before we walked down the aisle. During that 20 years we both changed many times and there were times we did go our separate ways. Like all couples each of us were experiencing growing pains and because we had the freedom of not being married we always worked it out and got back together. We did finally get married and I can honestly say that the piece of paper did nothing to change the relationship.
The report by academics at the University of Southampton said: ‘Cohabitation has become a normal part of the life course. ‘In 2004–07, 61 per cent of men aged 25–44 and 64 per cent of women of this age had cohabited at some point in their lives; of those aged 45–59, 38 per cent of men and 35 per cent of women, had done so.’
These days more and more people delay committing to a relationship until later on in life – on average about two years later than they did in the early 1980s.
If couples contemplating this enormous step thought more about the responsibilities of marriage and less about the actual wedding, it would be a step in the right direction.
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