In this day and age, when women 50+ are the largest demographic initiating divorce, remember there are couples who do make it through. My husband and I have many rocky patches in our relationship but both of us feel we are better together than we would be apart. That’s an important consideration and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
When you are with a spouse that shows you he cares, that makes you feel like you are not alone, you’re fortunate. Both men and women want to feel like they matter. We all need that especially when the going gets rough. Knowing there is someone there to support you, no matter what, means everything.
As part of long term relationship that started almost four decades ago, I’ve learned a few things about what it takes to go the distance. Here are a few tips I want to share with you.
- Give more than you expect to receive back. The trick to this, and what saves me from the wrath of the goddesses of feminism, is that this is a two-way street. This not only goes for you, but for your husband, too. If you are both giving more than your “fair share”, the marriage has half a chance of succeeding.
- Knock. You live together in the same house, but you still need boundaries. Everybody can use some privacy now and then, and common courtesies that you can depend upon. Both of us knock on a closed door and wait to be invited in. It’s usually not really necessary, but it speaks loud and clear: you are you and I am I, and I respect your right to protect your sacred sanctorum.
- Cultivate a short memory. Forgive quickly and don’t hold grudges. It’s a hard lesson to learn but the payoff is worth the effort.
- Two Independent People That Share A Life Together. Be independent. Both of you do the things that make you happy apart and then come together to share the things you love to do as a couple. Two happy people equals one happy couple.
If you’ve been in a long-term relationship that worked please share your secrets.
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