A couple of days ago I was looking at pictures of burn survivors and noticed how many of the women were wearing lots of makeup to hide their scars. Whenever I see someone with too much makeup I wonder what they are trying to hide. It's almost like a mask of protection.
I am a burn survivor and I don't like to wear makeup, Here are the reasons why:
The first reason is – I hate the way it feels on my face. It doesn't make me feel beautiful. So, if that's how I feel why would I use it to cover up my scars? Would I be doing it so other people think I look better? I don't need the approval. I feel beautiful because of me, not the makeup.
The second reason is – at a young age I did believe that in order to feel beautiful I would have to cover my scars. Wishing or surgery wasn't going to help so makeup was my last resort. My mom loved makeup and although she knew I was beautiful from the inside out, she felt my pain. She wanted to help make the scars go away so I could feel like every other kid. It killed her when I was teased and picked on. I know she wasn't intentionally trying to make me feel beautiful with makeup, there just wasn't any other way for her to help my scars go away.
When I was in elementary school, all I wanted was a face without scars. I dreamed of waking up one morning and "poof" they would have vanished. Down deep I knew that would never happen, but I really wanted it badly. When one of my friends told me that my scars would never disappear, I was crushed.
As I grew up and became an adult, I realized that I had to learn to embrace my scars. I had to love me for the person that I am. So I did. I learned to love little parts of my body. I learned to love my little ear that resulted from the fire. Not too many people have a little ear so it made me special.
Learning to love myself even though I am far from perfect is a gift. I don't need makeup, I don't need approval – I just need to be happy with me. I have found so many ways to make myself feel beautiful and the cool thing is, people tell me I'm beautiful all the time.
I don't need makeup I do need to love ME!
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