The Real Cougar Woman is celebrating the start of summer by taking time out for some personal reflection. It is time to take inventory, in fact, it's long overdue. For the past couple of days I have been looking at the choices I have made and evaluating what's working and what not.
To reflect effectively you have to get quiet. It's impossible to do it when you are smack in the middle of your day-to-day craziness. You know what I mean. As women, we just keep trucking along regardless of how we feel. There is a huge price to pay for not taking time out to re-evaluate. When we are at dis-ease we create disease which can manifest in many different forms.
It's easy to figure out what's working and what's not. But, too often I forget just how easy it is
Here's the secret. If what you're doing comes easy-without struggle, if the journey to the final desination makes you happy, then it's working. But, if everything is a struggle, if it stresses you out, if it brings out the worst parts of you – then you have to let go. The price is too high.
This secret is not so much a secret as it is a law. A spirtual law. When you are happy, when you don't let negative emotion get in your way, what you want appears right in front of you. But, the opposite is also true. When the decisions you make are based in negative emotion – guilt, fear, anger – then you can be rest assured it's not going to work out. Happiness is a muscle that you work on to make it stronger..
The great thing is we get to choose 24/7 how we want to feel. I have a very special friend who is my shining star – my role model when it comes to choosing. He opts for happiness all the time. He refuses to get caught up in other people's (as he calls them shit storms) that will take him out of the happy place. Here's an example of that.
His Mom is away on vacation and the day before she is ready to come home she left him a voicemail. She had rented an apartment in Paris and she hadn't been able to get in touch with the realtor to get back her deposit. So, she called her son telling him to fix the problem.
What did he do? He erased the voicemail and what's more important he felt okay doing it. Now, you may say, he's a terrible son. Quite the contrary – he's a great son. In fact, he had arranged this trip for his Mom and they had been together for a week at the Paris Open. My friend loves his Mom very much but realized there was nothing he could do and that she would figure it without him getting involved. So with no guilt, he went happily on with his day in a very good place.
So on this first day of summer, I am taking a cue from my friend and choosing to stay in the happy place. For me the contrast betweeen happy and unhappy is so huge I am consciously training myself to get back to happy much quicker than I ever did before. I invite you to join me there. I guarantee it will change your life.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,"there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible". Linda's book, Don't Ever Call Me Ma'am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.