I was watching an online video of a recent Cougar convention in Northern California. The attendees, younger men and older women were being interviewed as they danced the night away. The women were unified about why
they sought out younger men. There was no new news about that. Then, one Cougar said, "And the young men don't have to worry about putting a ring on it."
Excuse me? I hope she was only speaking for herself and not making a blanket statement about what ALL Cougar women want.
It is no secret I have a free Cougar dating site – Cougar International
. It is not like the ones you may have avoided online. There is no nudity allowed. No "f-bombs" allowed. No vulgar or rude behavior is allowed.. I wanted to make this as civil and comfortable a community as possible for my members and a place they can get support and be proud of.
I have noticed something in the two and a half years of moderating this community: There are some Cougars who DO want a man to "put a ring on it." In fact, I have read every one of my members' profiles and I dare say some 90% of women are looking for RELATIONSHIP, not a one night hookup.
Seriously, we gals have our hands full fighting the media stereotypes about women who enjoy dating younger men. Each time we assert ourselves an inch forward in defending our reputations as Cougars, one goes on camera and makes a blanket statement and drives us all back a hundred feet.
The fact is, I know many happily married Cougar/Cub couples. They have been together 30 plus years. They are still in love and tell me it just gets better and better. I have no issue with the women who are happily playing the field, but navigating these waters is hard enough. If you are interviewed on camera, please let the world know you are speaking just for yourself and not for the group of Cougar woman en toto.
There are still those women (and believe it or not, there are those men, too) who want to have a ring on it.
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