Gotta Get Physical. I don’t think it’s a big surprise to hear that women are more emotional than men when it comes to sex. We want to feel that connection with our mate, we want them to know what we’re thinking and we DEFINITELY want to cuddle for longer than 30 seconds after sex.
It's important to remember that sexual satisfaction has two components. An essential part of the total libido reboot, is making sure we’re satisfying our physical needs in addition to our emotional needs.
As any menopausal woman knows, your vagina changes a lot once your menstrual cycle is gone for good
Childbirth, a hysterectomy or even just the normal aging process also affects our vaginas, which in turn affects our libidos. Remember that “urge to merge” we discussed? Well, since we no longer have that urge, our body no longer sees a need for sex.
So what can we do to get our body to understand that we physically need sex?
When were in school we had to figure out what type of learners we were. Everyone is either an auditory, visual or kinesthetic (touch/movement) learner. Well, it’s the same when it comes to sex. You have to find out what works best for you and what gets your libido revved up the most.
For me, it’s all about scent. I like to buy cologne for my husband. When he wears it, the scent of his cologne really awakens my appetite for sex.
Think you’re too embarrassed to tell your man exactly what you like? I’ve got a few suggestions to help you communicate your sexual needs needs to your man:
- Show And Tell – Demonstrate all the things that really turn you on
- A Phone Call - If you're too embarrassed for a Show and Tell call and tell him your plans for a delicious night of lovemaking
- A Love Letter – Write down what really turns you on and leave it on his pillow. Just make sure your'e home when he finds this surprise
Figure out the most fun way to communicate what you want sexually.
Trust me, I know that emotional connection is very important. But once you two are connecting physically, the emotional connection will follow.
In the next posting, we’ll discuss the importance of proper exercise and nutrition in the complete "libido reboot".
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