It’s 10 p.m. and you’ve had a very eventful work day. You’ve finally had a chance to shower off that hectic mess of a day and pour yourself a small glass of red wine to sip on while watching the early evening news. All of sudden, he walks in with his suggestive grin and you begin to cringe at the thought of having to perform ANYTHING…especially sex!
His grin used to be all you ever needed to get in the mood. But now, something’s different. The two of you have been so busy that you haven’t even seen or talked to each other all day, you’re feeling so tired that you can barely hold your wine glass up and (quite frankly) sex is the last thing on your mind for tonight…or any other night this month for that matter.
It seems that after years of having passionate sex, many women lose that “sexy feeling” once they get into their 40s. Is this just something we have to accept as a usual change in our bodies and lives? Will we ever have that same desire for sex we once had in our 20s and 30s?
Here’s the deal. In our younger years, sex drive has a lot to do with biology and our physical “urge to merge.” Our bodies have a need to procreate and make babies! As we enter our 40s, our hormone levels start to fluctuate because our bodies no longer feel that need. However, just because our reproductive years are ending doesn’t mean our sex life has to end also!
If you’re finding it harder and harder to get into the mood, that’s okay – it’s a natural stage in a woman’s life. That just means it’s probably time to reboot your libido because sex is definitely a very important part of a happy and healthy lifestyle.
I’ve recently written a book to help women everywhere reignite their sex lives and continue to live a healthy lifestyle. I talk about a passion for passion in my book titled Libido Reboot, (due out later this year) and I explain the many things women can do to help them suffering from a low sex drive.
However, I didn’t always have a passion for passion. I was only 28 years-old when I started losing my sex drive…only 28! Between working a very stressful 100 hours per week as an OB/GYN resident and being on the birth control pill (which drastically changed my hormones) I could have cared less about sex. Since then, I’ve obviously found some methods that got my libido going again.
Rejuvenating your libido is a multidimensional process. Be prepared to invest time, attention, and energy into this journey. Be prepared for a change in diet, a shift in physical activity patterns, and a new awareness of where your time and energy are best spent.
The most important thing to remember is that there’s no one definition of a healthy libido – it’s different for every woman.
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