Can we ever know too much about orgasm? It’s an art and I thought all of my Real Cougars would want to be enlightened in that particular art. Make no mistake it is an art – if you truly appreciate the pleasure an orgasm can give you.
I didn’t know we could experience four different kinds of orgasms. I thought orgasms were orgasms, but I was wrong.
Betty Dodson Ph.D sexologist, who has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades, shares what she has observed about the female orgasm.
“After years of observing my own orgasms plus all the women I’ve known personally and have worked with professionally, I’ve observed four basic categories: Pressure, Tension, Relaxation and the Combination that I call a “Rock and Roll Orgasm.” This one combines elements of the first three. While breathing fully during a buildup, we are squeezing and releasing our muscles rhythmically with direct or indirect clitoral contact. Pressure or Tension orgasms are most often reached by holding our breath and gasping occasionally. Total relaxation orgasms or what I’ve also termed “Sleeping Beauty” are most rare. To remain totally relaxed while breathing deeply, someone else must do genital stimulation in a manner that is nearly perfect. Ha! If you find that person capture them quick!
While no two orgasms from self-stimulation are precisely the same, most women use some form of direct or indirect clitoral stimulation with or without penetration. The body responds with movement, no movement, along with varied breathing patterns from holding the breath to panting. Other women remain utterly silent while others make a variety of sounds. The mind can be paying attention to what the body is feeling, focused on sexual thoughts, or conjuring up a sex fantasy. Just as long as you’re not planning a dinner menu or running the laundry list.
To learn more about each specific orgasm click here.
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