While at the gym a few weeks ago, I was catching up with one of my fellow gym-cougars on the treadmill. She was telling me how she had just received a promotion, how her son made his high school basketball team and how her daughter was excited about getting into her first choice university…Duke! Life was really great.
Over the next few weeks, I noticed that her “life is great” smile was continually fading. She then confided in me that she and her husband were really great friends…but that was about it. They hadn’t been doing anything but sleeping in their bedroom for over 4 months now.
She blamed this unhappy situation on her stressful life. Over stressed from the long hours at work, the constant out-of-town basketball games, the steady worry about having enough money to send their daughter to college and all the other day-to-day stressors.She was very torn…she wanted to please her husband (and more importantly, herself), but she just didn’t have the energy, or desire for sex.
Libido is the desire for sex, the physical drive – that feeling like you really want it. A woman’s libido can drop a little bit or slip away completely for many reasons, and stress is right up there at the top of the list.
I’ve already talked so much about what’s going on in your body when you’re stressed. Cortisol just really wreaks havoc on all of the hormones in your body – including your sex hormones! But by no means does it mean we have to give up sex!
Restoring your libido will involve more than just reducing the stress in your life. However, that’s a good starting point. However, complete libido restoration will usually take more of a physical, mental and emotional makeover. Here's a video I did.
As we age, our hormones are fluctuating, and menopause can bring a significant drop in the levels of hormones that create our sex drive. This hormone imbalance is the physical reality behind most lost libidos.
I want to assure you that you can safely and effectively restore your hormones when you use bioidentical hormones. Bioidentical hormones are exact replicas of the hormones made by the human body. And while they will make a big difference in restoring your libido, they’re only part of the big picture.
In my next series, I will talk more about sex, love, libido and hormones. Of course I will cover the medical aspects of libido, but I will also delve more into the psychology of libido and offer real advice on approaching sex after 40.