Infidelity Isn’t What Breaks Up Marriages – It’s Boredom

Boredom Boredom, not infidelity, is now the main reason women in their 40's and 50's want a divorce.  I think, if we're honest, all married women can relate to that same old, same old, at some point in their relationship.  

Boredom in marriage occurs when people take each other for granted.  As time goes by you tell your mate your problems but don't bother asking how they are doing.  Yes, I know men aren't really good at communicating their feelings, but they do like to feel you care.  I have talked to a lot of men about feeling neglected and many say they are there to solve problems and pay the bills.

I believe women can relate to what men are feeling.  Aren't their times you feel you are there just to clean the house, cook the meals, and provide the occasional romp in the hay?

It doesn't get easier as you get older.  I have friends who are dreading their husband's retirement.  They don't want him hanging around the house all day looking to be entertained.  It's not easy.  Marriage isn't easy, but it's very difficult to leave.

Their are a zillion books and even more relationship experts ready and willing to tell you how to save your marriage.  The question is how successful are they in helping you? If you have successfully turned your relationship from boring to beautiful let me know the secret.

I wish I had all the answers but I don't.  Marriage isn't easy.  There are good days and bad days, but you have to go deep inside your gut to determine what's best for you.  Do you try and work it out or do you call it quits?  Only you can make that decision.  Perhaps the love is still there and you just have to get rid of the pile of emotional baggage that is suffocating it.


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2 thoughts on “Infidelity Isn’t What Breaks Up Marriages – It’s Boredom

  1. Many marriage partners start treating each other like old shoes. He or she is just there. If the dating process had started like that, they would never have gotten married in the first place. There is so much to do and see in this world. There are so many ways to relate to another person, boredom does not have to set in. Especially if you know you can always lose a partner to a more interested person.
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  2. The incidence of boredom is also positively correlated to education. The more educated both partners, the lower the boredom threshold…and given that its essentially women who have closed the education and career gap in the last 50 years, they are just not satisfied with what used to be acceptable years ago. They too have tasted the juicy fruits of a stimulated mind and self-actualization through performing knowledge-work and creative problem-solving ( as opposed to manual labour like washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking) and once a mind has been stretched, it can never return to its ignorant bliss ever again.

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