Guest blogger Dr. Michael L. Krychman, Medical Director of Sexual Medicine Hoag Hospital and Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine reveals how to take your sex life from tiresome to thrilling and banish sexual boredom.
What is Sexual boredom? Even if you absolutely love chocolate chip cookies having them every night week after week, day after day and year after year can lead to some periods of monotony. Sexual boredom is not uncommon for many couples. They need to modify the sexual routine by changing the erotic script.
Changes in what you do sexually with your partner can also affect your your biology by modifying your hormones; novelty can increase the hormones and neurotransmitters that may lead heightened intimacy and an enhanced bonding experience.
What is most important is that you and your partner feel comfortable with any transformations to your sexual habits.
Try combining your secret desires into a real fantasy that you both would feel comfortable sharing or even acting out. Consider your own turn ons and what you'd like to have your partner do to you.
Be a Good Person and Lover
It’s important to stay positive and constructive- criticism rarely makes for a happy sexual home life. Also keep your sense of humor- life is often a challenge and pull together with your partner rather thank argue and fight. Your partner can not read your mind- direct communication with your lover is important.
Make it Real
Fantasy can turn into reality and it may translate into sexual excitement and adventure. For example, you may want to try pretend not knowing each other in public places — then meet and see how the evening unfolds. Role playing with costumes and scenes also are exciting for both partners as they can live out fantasies in a safe environment. Its always important to chat about your own personal boundaries and sexual limitations.
Play with props
Sexual accessories can help add some excitement into the boring bedroom, Try things like sexy lingerie or furry handcuffs or edible oils, sexual accessories or even costumes. Use all your senses and consider experimenting with sensual massage. A favorite of many men and women is Zestra ® sexual enhancing oil which can be used during lovemaking to give a new WOW factor.
Try something adventurous outside the bedroom. Novelty and excitement produce a neurochemical reaction that may evoke feelings you experience at the beginning of a new and exciting relationship. Try a rollercoaster, dancing naked in the living room or if you are more daring try skydiving, bungee jumping, or mountain climbing. Maybe even sex in the kitchen with the lights on!