Does age really play a factor in the success of a relationship? Are you better off with someone your own age, someone older or as today's cougars believe, someone younger? Many would say age is a meaningless number and I would agree, for the most part. But today's Real Cougar who is a strong, confident, independent woman wants someone who matches her energy and vitality in and out of the bedroom. So, is their a price to pay for that? And is love ever enough?
David Arquette, 39, said 46-year-old Courteney Cox grew tired of being his "mother," so they separated in October, 11 years and one child into their marriage. Cher and Madonna married and are divorced from younger men. But was that because of age?
Pepper Schwartz, the sex and relationship, sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, said cougar dating is one thing. "You play around with somebody for a while and have a lot of fun, but it's another thing to say, 'Hey, we're signing up for a long haul.
Sometimes the age factor isn't a factor at all, she said. For others, it doesn't become important until well into a marriage".
Many cougars have had a first marriage that was traditional in a lot of ways. They gave their all to their role as wife and mother and lost their own identity in the process. When the relationship ended and they began dating again, they chose younger guys and thoroughly enjoyed the new dynamic. But can that thrill endure if the relationship becomes long term?
Women worry. They project what will happen 10 years down the line and forget to enjoy the moment they are experiencing right now. They wonder if their guy will start to crave some starry eyed nymphet and head for the door leaving them alone, old and miserable? That kind of stinkin' thinkin' leads to disaster.
Any relationship is a gamble isn't it? There is so much that can happen that pulls you apart. The things you value change as you mature. It doesn't matter how old you or your partner are, if you stop working on the relationship, if you start taking each other for granted, if you lose respect, if you withhold sex - it's all downhill.
So, does age matter? Not really, if you choose wisely. Not if you are completely honest about what you want, and are willing to keep the lines of communication open at all times.