More women than you can imagine want to put back the sizzle in their sex lives. We may not talk about it but secretly we miss when hot sex turns a boring luke warm. In the latest survey released by SkinnyScoop.com, 100% of women admit they would like to have lots more sex or be more adventurous with the sex they are having.
There's a conflict however between what we want and what we are willing to do to get it. According to the American Medical Association Journal, over 72% of women say they want sex at different times of the day and night and in different locations, yet close to half complained about a host of sexual problems. So, is it any wonder that 81% of women would rather have a massage than a good romp in the hay?
Cougars, it's the beginning of a New Year and the perfect time to get back the sizzle. Life is too short to deprive yourself of the excitement and pleasure of a fabulous sex life. Here are some proven strategies that is sure to heat up what happens between your sheets in 2011. Sex deserves a top spot on your priority list – it's up to you to put it there.
Be Upfront: Don't be shy about telling your guy what you want. Married couple & relationship experts,Tamsen Fadal and Matt Titus, founders of The Love Consultant (www.loveconsultant.com) can help you with that.
Reclaim Your Bedroom: Remove anything that's not related to sex or sleep.
Exude Sexual Confidence: Find your own sexual style and let it shine. Sexuality is not related to age, body shape or appearance, it starts in your brain – so think about what you are thinking about.
Indulge in Aphrodisiacs: Chocolate, champagne and truffles are rich in phenylethamine and for some, may help improve or enhance sexual performance.
Kick Predicatability To The Curb: Plan romantic activities and getaways. Set your brain chemistry for romance.
According to Dr. Susan Kellogg, sexual wellness professional and co-founder and director of sexual medicine, The Pelvic and Sexual Health Institute of Philadelphia, it's novelty with an element of risk that can help spike your brain chemicals , boost your sexual energy, and help you reconnect sexually. That desired spike in these "feel good" neurotransmitting chemicals, dopamine and norepinephrine, can help a relationship feel like new again.
Don't count out cuddling: According to Kellogg, it helps release oxytocin, a brain chemical that helps to promote intimacy.
Consult with your physician: Surprisingly, 9 out of 10 women fail to talk to their doctor about sexual dissatisfaction. It could be medical issue so do yourself a favor and have yourself checked and that includes a full hormone panel.
Break The Silence: Get the conversation started. While close to half of all women complain of sexual issues, nine out of ten are reluctant to talk to friends or professionals about these issues. Start talking, start asking questions and you will be amazed what you will learn.
Even The Playing Field: Don't let men have all the fun. For more than a decade, men have had help with achieving sexual satisfaction. In 2011 even the playing field with Zestra, the first clinically proven breakthrough documented to boost libido, arousal, and overall sexual satisfaction for more than 70% of women.
Try using these strategies to ring in the New Year and get ready to lie back and enjoy 12 months of fantastic fun sex.