Sex That Sizzles After 40

Couple kissingIf you believe what you read, it seems that when you cross over a certain age, like maybe 40 or 45, your days of explosive passion are long gone. Making love is a rare occurrence and that most women would rather get a good nights sleep than have sex.

One in three adults who took part in a recent survey admitted they had cut short a sex session because they were too exhausted to carry on and after 45, making love is a strictly lights-off-in-the-bedroom event. 

The average 45-year-old makes love once a week and is lucky if the entire experience lasts longer than 22 minutes. And, sex is only happening in the bedroom for 85 per cent of older couples.

In my opinion,women have been brainwashed by society.  We are led to believe that as we approach menopause we lose our sexy.  If you buy into that antiquated story you really can turn your sex switch to the off position for good.  You can convince yourself that you are no longer alluring and focus on your sags, bags and wrinkles instead.  After enough negative thinking you will find it hard to believe that anybody will find you sexually arousing.  This bad thinking leads us down a very bad path,

So what can you do to break the pattern and pump up your sex life after 45? 

Remember, sex starts in your brain, so stop telling yourself you are old and that sex is not important. Sex is very important. You are starting a great new time in your life and you are more desirable and more delicious than ever before. You have experience, you have confidence and you're not embarrassed to ask for what you want.  Stop worrying about that extra 10 pounds because it's not going to bother the lucky man that reaps the benefits of that fabulous and new sexy lady that is ready to have fun.

If you need a little help in getting your juices flowing, be sure to see your doctor and check out hormone levels, read a steamy novel or watch a really sexy movie. Give yourself permission to have fun.  

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One thought on “Sex That Sizzles After 40

  1. Amen, Linda. It starts in our 'head' first. At 45, I was in a sad marriage with no sex at all. I thought I was the only one; turns out I was one of many. My juices didn't start bubbling up till my late 40's. My 50's have been the BEST time of my life sexually. Why? Because I did not want to leave this good earth without knowing what pleasure my body could offer me. I'm very pleased to say I won't.
    Good sex promotes good mental health. Many women don't prioritize our mental health until we grow older and realize we've prioritized everybody else's….
    Sound familiar, ladies?

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