I get emails all the time from women telling me that the dating experience is tough and it's not how they remembered it. Wish I had a nickel for every time I hear that dating is a young person's game and putting yourself in such a vulnerable position just ain't worth it.
Well, don't be so fast to count yourself out of the game. It's time to recognize that the added years are actually expanding your chances of making a perfect match. Real Cougar women, I am proud to say, are able to attract wonderful men at any age. They have that special blend of class and sass that men just eat up.
If you don't believe me, allow me to remind you why you are such a great catch.
You know yourself better now.
At the heart of wise dating is a clear understanding of who you are. You must know your needs, temperament, strengths and weaknesses before you can select the right partner.
You are better equipped to assess potential partners.
How people present themselves often is not an accurate gauge of what’s going on inside. As we get older, we become more skilled at figuring out what makes others tick. We look for clues about their true character. We watch for signs of emotional health, spiritual commitment, and sound decision-making.
You have a clearer sense of what matters.
By the time we’re well into adulthood, most of us understand that lasting love hinges on heart-and-soul qualities. Kindness, unselfishness, compassion, joyfulness—these are the qualities that enrich relationships over the long haul. We know that these internal characteristics are far more significant than external factors.
You have clarified your dreams and goals.
We are more focused and do only the things that we feel called to do. That’s important because a great marriage includes two people whose goals and dreams overlap. As you have become more selective about the ambitions to pursue, you are better able to evaluate whether your goals complement those of your potential partner.
You have more realistic expectations.
You've undoubtedly been in some rough relationships. Those experiences, though painful at the time, have an upside: they provide valuable lessons and create a more reasonable, sensible view of love and marriage. Older singles know that any kind of romantic relationship, however wonderful, will have problems to work through. A long-term relationships can be fabulous, but it will never be flawless.
If you cringe when you think about your age, do yourself a huge favor and tune out all those negative vibes. Instead, make a list of all the reasons why any man would be lucky to be with you. Your years have prepared you to find and enjoy a lasting and fulfilling relationship. So if that's what you want – just go out and find it!