Hot Sex After 45? It’s Up To You!

Cheaters The party line seems to be that by the age of 45, your days of explosive passion are long gone.  That making love is a rare occurrence and that most women would rather get a good nights sleep than have sex.

One in three adults who took part in a survey admitted they had cut short a sex session because they were too exhausted to carry on and at 45, making love is a strictly lights-off-in-the-bedroom affair.

The average 45-year-old makes love once a week and is lucky if the entire experience lasts longer than 22 minutes. And, sex is restricted to the bedroom for 85 per cent of older couples, while 64 per cent only ever cuddle up to their partner if the lights are off.

Personally, I think women over 45 have been brainwashed by society.  We are led to believe that as we approach menopause we lose our sexy.  Beware!! – if you start to believe that the sexy switch is turned off.  Instead of feeling beautiful we focus on the sags and wrinkles and find it hard to believe that anybody will find us sexually arousing.  Do you see where the bad thinking can lead us?

So what can you do to break the pattern and pump up your sex life after 45?  First of all, always remember that sex starts in the brain, so stop telling yourself you are old and that sex is not important. Sex is very important and for you my dear, it's the beginning of new and exciting era. It's a time in your life when you are more desirable and more delicious than ever before. You have experience, you have confidence and you're not embarrassed to ask for what you want.  Stop worrying about that extra 10 pounds because it's not going to bother the lucky man that reaps the benefits of that  fabulous and new sexy lady that is about to emerge.

If you need a little help in getting your juices flowing, go to your doctor and check out your hormones, read a steamy novel and watch a couple of really sexy movies.  I think that will do the trick.  


4 thoughts on “Hot Sex After 45? It’s Up To You!

  1. SO TRUE! I feel like there has never been a better time in the history of the world to be a woman over 40! For starters, women with experience and who know what they want are SUPER HOT! Plus, we have a little disposable income to buy what we want. (In my case, I sell sex toys so I find women over 40 always BUY and do not give a rats butt about what anyone thinks.)
    Women over 40 are desirable and delish and it's just getting started – we are in our sexual peak in our 40's and beyond. This locomotive is just gettin rollin!
    When can I book you to come on my radio show? It streams live every Wednesday at 11 pacific. – please email me as I would love to book you.
    Blissfully, Chrystal

  2. Feeling good about yourself physically is SO important. When you don't FEEL sexy, it's hard to BE sexy. Just making an effort to get fit can help tremendously–you DON'T have to be some ideal weight. Fortunately, when you're 45 or older, you don't stress about every little thing you did 20-30 years ago. You're usually more accepting. And you know by now that "sexy" isn't about perfect thighs!

  3. I love sex and I am over 45. However staying sexual means you have to practice taking care of yourself. Women are trained to be CARETAKERS of other people or things ,so everyone goes in front of us the children, the husband, the boss, the dog, our parents,before we know it we are to busy to look at ourselves –no wonder we are tired, no wonder we make sex the last priority. This caretaking training needs to stop so we can have a better lifestyle balance. Men benefit from our caretaking- so they have time to think of sex more often.

  4. I am 45 an sex is really wonderful. After you past 40, I find that I cut through the chase about a lot of things. I've gained about 15 pounds in the last year. I'm in the process of working out but I feel the most sexiest right now. It's different than when I was in my 20's. This is from the inside and out. My sexy is mature. When you carry this into the bedroom….lookout!
    Loving Me, Sira

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