Please indulge me today, this is my day to rant. For the past three years I have been an advocate for cougar women all over the world. I have been telling anyone who would listen that cougar is not a dirty word, even though the majority of people still think is. For some reason, both men and women choose to slam cougars whenever they can. Both sexes don't want to admit that Real Cougar Women are strong, confident independent and refuse to be defined by the age of the man they are with.
The cougar craze started to grab people's attention when high profile women like Demi Moore, Madonna, Katie Couric and Kim Cattrall switched their preference to younger men. And, even though they clearly fit my description of a Real Cougar, they all said they hate the label. So why is that?
In my opinion, it's because the media jumped all over the cougars portraying them as man hungry cradle robbers that would do anything to snag some young flesh. They made them into cartoon characters sporting bling, cleavage and way too much botox. TV show like The Cougar, and CougarTown emerged which portrayed women on the prowl. People watched and began to believe that a woman over 40 was a predator that would do anything for love. The bottom line – sex sells so it's no surprise that soon after everyone jumped on the cougar bandwagon – Cougar Beauty Contests, Cougar Cruises and of course Cougar Dating sites.
The part that puzzles me is why so many women are choosing to participate in these cougar sideshows? Why are they so ready to supply sexy photos of themselves in skimpy outfits to be viewed by millions online? Come on ladies, stop exacerbating an already negative image and start showcasing how fabulous you really are.
I'm not alone in this rant. My community of Real Cougar Women are discouraged too. Just when they thought it was safe to call themselves Real Cougars the image is more tarnished than ever before. They are tired of being the joke du jour around the office coffee machine.
Okay, so now you know what's bugging me. I will close this posting by confessing that I am seriously thinking of dropping the Cougar from The Real Cougar Woman. That doesn't mean that I will stop teaching women how to be healthy, happy, beautiful and financially independent – how could I when it's my passion. I am just sick and tired of the negative spin trumping all the positive and wonderful qualities women have to offer.
Thanks for your support and I would welcome your comments.