It's hard to imagine in this environment of infidelity, sex addiicton and coping with a recession why anyone would choose to get married. All the hopes and dreams we believed about happily ever after seem to be nothing but a fairy tale illusion. It's very possible, the "hard work" it takes to make a marriage work simply wrings out all the passion and joy two people once might have felt for each other. The spectacular public bust-ups we read about every day makes it very obvious we currently inhabit a vast and bleak landscape of marital discontent.
In a much-discussed survey of 35,000 American women, published last year in Women's Day, 72 percent of married women said they had considered leaving their husbands. Seventy-nine percent said they'd like sex more often, and 52 percent said they have no sex life whatsoever.
Most of us have not consciously or categorically banished passionate love from our lives, we just can't seem to make it work.
Talk to almost any therapist, and he or she will tell you that the primary reason people aren't happy is they are too tired to have sex and have built up a mountain of resentments over the difficulty of running a household together. This is in part why we are so fascinated with marriages that appear, from the outside at least, highly functional and romantic but are they really?
It's interesting that even as heterosexual women are sounding the death knell for their nuptials, homosexual men and women are fighting for the right to marry traditionally. It may be that you can't properly loathe an institution of which you are not yet a member.