I am constantly being reminded how difficult it is for women over 40 to find love and that the dating process is pure hell. I wish I had a nickel for every time I hear that dating is a young person's game and putting yourself in such a vulnerable position just ain't worth it.
Well, don't be so fast to count yourself out of the game. If you start to think your years are stacking the odds against your romantic possibilities, it’s time to review the benefits that age bring. Real Cougar women understand this and that's why they are able to attract wonderful men at any age. They have that special blend of poise and sass that men just eat up.
Let me help you count the way you are a great catch.
You know yourself better now.
At the heart of wise dating is a clear understanding of who you are. You must know your needs, temperament, strengths and weaknesses before you can select the right partner.
You are better equipped to assess potential partners.
How people present themselves often is not an accurate gauge of what’s going on inside. As we get older, we become more skilled at figuring out what makes others tick. We look for clues about their true character. We watch for signs of emotional health, spiritual commitment, and sound decision-making.
You have a clearer sense of what matters.
By the time we’re well into adulthood, most of us understand that lasting love hinges on heart-and-soul qualities. Kindness, unselfishness, compassion, joyfulness—these are the qualities that enrich relationships over the long haul. We know that these internal characteristics are far more significant than external factors.
You have clarified your dreams and goals.
We are more focused and do only the things that we feel called to do. That’s important because a great marriage includes two people whose goals and dreams overlap. As you have become more selective about the ambitions to pursue, you are better able to evaluate whether your goals complement those of your potential partner.
You have more realistic expectations.
You've undoubtedy been in some rough relationships. Those experiences, though painful at the time, have an upside: they provide valuable lessons and create a more reasonable, sensible view of love and marriage. Older singles know that any kind of romantic relationship, however wonderful, will have problems to work through. A long-term relatinships can be fabulous, but it will never be flawless.
If you cringe at the thought of your years piling up, do yourself a huge favor: tune out the negative messages about age and focus instead on the advantages. Your years on earth have prepared you—now more than ever—for a fulfilling and lasting relationship.