People say money doesn’t buy happiness. But according to a new study from Princeton University’s Woodrow Wilson School, it kind of does to the tune of about $75,000 a year. The lower a person’s annual income falls below that benchmark, the unhappier he or she feels. But no matter how much more than $75,000 people make, they don’t report any greater degree of happiness.
The study points out that there are actually two types of happiness. There’s your changeable, day-to-day mood: whether you’re stressed or blue or feeling emotionally sound. Then there’s the deeper satisfaction you feel about the way your life is going. While having an income above the magic $75,000 cutoff doesn’t seem to have an impact on the former (emotional well-being), it definitely improves your day-to-day mood. In other words, the more people make above $75,000, the more they feel their life is working out on the whole. .
The authors found that most Americans — 85% — regardless of their annual income, felt happy each day. Almost 40% of respondents also reported feeling stressed (which is not mutually exclusive with happiness) and 24% had feelings of sadness. Most people were also satisfied with the way their life was going.
For more of the details about the money/happiness relationship check out this article in Time Magazine.
I was recently interviewed by Time Magazine. They wanted to do a story about Cougar women and focus on the Cubs' desire to date them. The reporter was surprised when I told him the younger men are actually the ones driving this dating dynamic.
The Time interview was a great opportunity to present my doctoral research and I took it. For over twenty years I have been compiling data on the younger man/older woman bond. Here in a nutshell is the reason younger men are driving this dynamic.
The truth of the matter is, there are far more younger men looking to meet older women than there are older available women available to meet the need. The women love these odds because it means they can be selective and find just what they are looking for. They don’t have to “settle”.
It was the younger men who also coined such vernacular as “Cougar”, “preying”, “Cougar den”, “pouncing”, “kitten”, “puma”, and other Cougar related terms. Men write to me daily asking how to approach a mature woman, what we like, how to talk to us, how to relate to us. They make it clear that they are proactive in going to venues where they can meet an older woman. I am in contact with thousands of men around the world who desire to meet mature women.
Cougar Women aren't rushing to the altar and they are not alone.. According to a recent survey conducted by the Pew Research Center in association with Time Magazine, four out of ten Americans believe marriage is becoming obsolete. Conversely, the Pew Research survey reports, cohabitation–where couples live together as unmarried partners–is on the rise.
You may deliberately fore go the formalities of marriage, but depending on where you live, or where you move to, the legal obligations you owe your partner are all too familiar. The rights and obligations of unmarried partners vary significantly from state to state, and in some cases, mirror the rights and obligations of married spouses.
If you are living with a partner, or thinking about living with a partner, you should seriously consider entering into a cohabitation agreement (a.k.a. a "living together" agreement) designating the extent to which each partner is responsible for joint expenses and ultimately to each other.
This is a delicate subject I know. When you're in love you don't want to think of all the what if's. But this piece of paper can protect you and I suggest you look into it. For more information read this article by Roberts S.Cohen one of New York's best divorce lawyers.
Last week Time.com published an article entitled “The Science of Cougar Sex” – Why Older Women Lust. As you might imagine with a title like that it was written by a man, in this case John Cloud. He writes that men who cheat on their spouses have always enjoyed an expedient explanation: Evolution made me do it. So the question at hand was – does evolution play a part in women’s sexuality? Is she more driven by more by celluar memory than her own free will?
A new journal article suggests that evolutionary forces do play a part in a women’s sexuality and that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America’s most sexually industrious.
I won’t bore you with any more details. because I think the studies used are flawed. But go ahead and read the article for yourself so you can tell me what you think.
Here’s my theory.
I believe for women of any age sexual passion is triggered much more from our brains than other parts of our bodies. If we are provided with the right stimulus (body, mind and spirit) then we are ready to unleash that Real Cougar every woman has inside of her. Yes, as we get closer to menpause, we might need to engage in a little hormonal rebalancing to rekindle the fire, but then sex if better than ever, providing it’s with the right man.
In my community of Real Cougars over 40 (married & single) the women are enjoying pleasurable and robust sex lives. They say that sex is much too important to ever toss in the back of the closet and that age doesn’t affect their level of passion. I couldn’t agree more. Society reminds us too often that at a certain age you are no longer desirable. Thank God, women all over the world are no longer buying into that nonsense!