Oral Sex Is Good For A Women’s Health!

by Linda Franklin

Oral sex is good for women’s health and apparently engaging in this sexual act makes you happier.  Men all over the planet must be cheering this latest news.  A study done at The State University of New York, monitored the effects of semen’s ‘mood-altering chemicals.

The research showed that seminal fluid contains chemicals that elevates mood, increases affection, induces sleep and also contains at least three anti-depressants. Hell, they should bottle this stuff if all this is true.

Semen contains cortisol, which is known to increase affection, estrone, which elevates mood and oxytocin, which also elevates mood.

It also contains thyrotropin-releasing hormone (another antidepressant), melatonin (a sleep-inducing agent), and even serotonin.

To investigate whether semen has antidepressant effects, the authors rounded up 293 college females from the university’s Albany campus, who agreed to fill out an anonymous questionnaire about various aspects of their sex lives.

Their findings also suggest that women who have unprotected sex with their partners – and therefore are getting regularly inseminated by them – experience more significant depression on breaking up with these men than those who were not as regularly exposed to an ex’s semen, and that they also go on the rebound faster in seeking new sexual partners.

The most significant findings from this study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, were that, even after adjusting for frequency of sexual intercourse, women who engaged in sex and ‘never’ used condoms showed significantly fewer depressive symptoms than did those who ‘usually’ or ‘always’ used condoms.

Importantly, these chronically condom-less, sexually active women also evidenced fewer depressive symptoms than did those who abstained from sex altogether.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Men Thinking About Sex Every 7 Seconds

by Linda Franklin 

Do men really think about sex every seven seconds?  If they do here’s how it breaks down.  The average male who is awake 16 hours a day would have to think about sex more than 8,000 times a day. That’s about as many times as he breathes. 

The Social Organization of Sexuality found that 54 per cent of men reported thinking about sex every day or several times a day, 43 per cent a few times a month or a few times a week, and four per cent less than once a month.

When women were asked the same question: 19 per cent reported thinking about sex every day or several times a day, 67 per cent a few times a month and 14 per cent less than once a month.

After reading those statistics I wanted to do my own survey, so I asked my friends on Facebook if they thought about sex every day.  Here are a few of their responses.  

• I’ve been thinking about sex every day ever since I lost my virginity at 19. Love it and my goal is to be a dirty old lady with or without a partners.  Thank goodness for toys!  
• Sex is way overrated… and I think I overrated it! And sex is so seldom talked about openly, yet so predominant in our thoughts. How strange. 
• I think about it every day….several times a day. It’s very important to me.  Sometimes i think my sex drive is greater than my husbands.
• Since I turned 40 three years ago I realize I think of sex so much more often. Absolutely every day. I’m fortunate enough to now have an amazing man in my life who is quite happy about that.
• I’m sorry, what was the question? I was lost in a sexual fantasy.

Our sexuality is an important part of who we are.  So, if more people were actually having sex, maybe we would have less time to think about it.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,” there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Heavier Women Enjoying More Sex

by Linda Franklin

Yes, it’s true.  A new study shows that overweight women are enjoying more sex than their thinner sisters. In fact, 92 percent of overweight women are engaging in lots more fun bedroom activities.

The research is based on data gathered on more than 7,000 women. The sexperts are suggesting that if a woman is feeling a decrease in desire she should try more erotic methods of stimulation — like reading trashy romance novels for 20 minutes, three times a week.  Oh come on, we can come up with something more exciting than that can’t we?

I think we all can agree that there is nothing sexy about housework or grocery shopping. And, if your to-do list is all you think about, you are not leaving any room for sexual fantasy. Heavier women agree that weight becomes less of an issue when you are feeling sexy and desirable.

There’s one thing we Real Cougars always have to remember.  Our weight becomes more of an issues for us than it does for the man or men in our lives.  Men love a confident woman and they love a woman with some flesh on their bones.  Who wants to snuggle up against a bag of bones?

Start appreciating your body. See yourself as a sexy woman, a woman who likes the way she looks, a women who appreciates and nurtures her sexuality and I guarantee you are going to be a lot happier in and out of the bedroom.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Female Orgasm – Many Paths To Pleasure

by Linda Franklin

Women definitely have the advantage over men when it comes to sexuality because we can experience not only multiple orgasms, but can even reach orgasm through different stimulation in different areas.  There are women who can reach orgasm having their breasts and nipples stimulated, some from certain areas on their thighs or knees, some from their elbows, their hips and buttocks, and still others from their back, neck, or scalp.  As you can see, when it comes to a woman’s orgasm, there can be a very wide range of possibilities.

Most commonly, however, women reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris. Again, there are choices.  Stimulation can range anywhere from a tongue during oral sex, to fingers in foreplay or masturbation, a vibrator, or a steady stream of water.  So many paths to pleasure.

There are many women who can reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation, but don’t think they are normal because they can’t have an orgasm with penetration.  Those women too often feel there is something wrong with them because, unless they can find a position where they can rub their clitoris against their partner’s body, they can’t reach orgasm.  And there are plenty of men too, it seems, that want to know what is wrong.  Why isn’t there partner having an orgasm when they have intercourse?  Is there something wrong with her?  Is there something he is doing wrong, or something different he needs to do?  The reality is, there is nothing wrong and she is probably perfectly normal.

Only about 30% of women can reach orgasm with intercourse or penetration alone.  When these women are reaching orgasm from penetration, it is usually due to rhythmic stimulation of their cervix, found at the top of the vagina.   Many women describe this orgasm as happening “on the inside,” as opposed to the orgasm they get from stimulating the clitoris, which they feel more “on the outside.”  So that leaves approximately 70% of women that cannot have orgasm with simple intercourse or penetration.  These women are the norm, not the other way around.  I repeat, only having orgasms from stimulation of the clitoris is normal and is the most common scenario.

Orgasm should never be a mission and sex should focus most on pleasure and closeness.  With that said, it is not unreasonable to suggest that a woman receive plenty of oral or manual stimulation before, during, or after intercourse so that she has maximal opportunity to have an orgasm (or two or three).

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Beauty Bash This Weekend

Beauty Bash

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Fab Over Fifty  will host Beauty Bash, a two-day event at the Metropolitan Pavilion in New York City on October 1-2, 2011.  I will be there and I hope to see you there too. All my very special cougar women get discounted tickets for this extravaganza.  All you do is use “cougar 40″ in the promo code when you register. 

FOF Beauty Bash is a hands-on, interactive, only-in-New-York-City-type event. It will bring together celebrity stylists; make-up artists; plastic surgeons; dermatologists; cosmetic dentists; beauty, fashion and fitness icons, as well as other specialists, for custom fittings, 1-on-1 consultations, live demonstrations and seminars on the latest beauty and wellness advances for FabOverFifty women. Attendees will sample the newest creams, colors, lotions, potions and serums; get insider tips, techniques and strategies designed especially for women over fifty. Which face cream really gets rid of wrinkles? Is my bra the right size for me? Should I get plastic surgery? How do I apply makeup to make me look younger? What can I do about my thinning hair?

Custom FOF Beauty Bash highlights include:

Mark Garrison, Celebrity Stylist –One of the world’s most sought-after hair stylists, Mark will be doing hair center stage for two days. He will solve your most difficult hair challenges, and provide complimentary cuts.

Le Mystere, Leader in Intimate Apparel – Get a custom and complimentary bra-fitting from the experts at Le Mystere, innovators in the intimate apparel space for their seamless, supportive and fashionable designs.

Jill Kirsh, Celebrity Makeup Artist – With just a few simple color tricks from Jill, you will look younger, more svelte, and radiant than ever. Meet one-on-one with Jill and watch her live color makeovers on the main stage.

Dr. Sharon Giese and Dr. Robert Gotkin, Cosmetic Surgeons –Meet privately in designated “doctor’s offices” at the FOF Beauty Bash with Dr. Sharon Giese or Dr. Robert Gotkin, two of New York’s most sought-after cosmetic surgeons, and ask them your biggest beauty questions. Dr. Giese’s “Natural Lift” is touted as “the future of plastic surgery” by Dr. Oz, and Dr. Gotkin was named “One of New York’s best doctors” by New York Magazine.

Elline Surianello, Master Hairapist – Elline will analyze your tresses so you can go from flat or frizzy to fantastic in less time than it takes to unplug the dryer. Walk away with Elline’s complimentary hairapy gift package.

Dr. Ellen Marmur, Dermatologist – In just minutes, Dr. Marmur could save your life with a complimentary body check. She’ll put your mind at ease about melanoma, and other forms of skin cancer that can be detected in the earliest stages. Dr. Marmur is associated with New York’s Mount Sinai Hospital and is one of the most respected doctors in the dermatological field. She has performed extensive research on the development of melanoma vaccines.

As an added bonus, attendees also will receive a gift bag filled with more than $150 worth of today’s hottest beauty products, as well as exclusive offers from partners, including Soft Surroundings, Molton Brown, Cynthia Rowland Beauty Systems, Perricone and many more.

To learn more, you can visit the Beauty Bash website at www.faboverfifty.com. 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sex Is Better Than Any Pill

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Sex is one of our biggest preoccupations, and so it’s natural that it would be the subject of a slew of research projects. Scientists at Rutgers University, are using scans to monitor women’s brains during orgasm and are coming up with some interesting factoids.  

Two minutes before orgasm the brain’s reward centers become active. These are the same areas that are activated when we’re eating and drinking. Then, immediately before we climax,other areas of the brain – the ones that receive ‘touch’ messages from the body - are activated.

The final part of the brain to be activated is the ‘control’ part which regulates temperature, hunger, thirst and tiredness.  So, having sex at the end of the day, has many stress-relieving benefits, especially for men.  Having a powerful orgasm is equal to having a 2-3mg shot of Valium.  Now you know why they have sex and then immediately turn over and start to snore.

What else happens to a woman’s brain when she slips between the sheets?  Is sex mind altering?  The answer is yes. 

The oxytocin, released during sex lowers our defences so we become more trusting. It’s also the key to bonding, because it increases our levels of empathy. Women produce more oxytocin than men and that’s why we are more likely to let down our guard and fall in love with a man after sex. Unfortunately, our body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.   

Men, on the other hand, don’t get that same surge of bonding hormone, they get a surge of pure pleasure. That’s because the main hormone released for them during sex is dopamine – the pleasure hormone. For women especially – the mind plays a major role in achieving orgasm. The key to female arousal seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety.  

 

Regular sex – are you ready for this – may actually help us grow new brains cells too.  That’s what researchers at Princeton are finding. So does that mean the more sex you have the smarter you get??? Factors such as stress and depression have been shown to shrink the hippocampus, yet exercise and sex counteract this effect.

 

The benefits of sex are numerous to list on a blog posting, but I’ll leave you with this.  Our lips have 100 times

more nerve endings than our fingertips.  So, if you kiss a lot before intercourse, the sex will be much better.   

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Tim Gunn Says Hillary Clinton Confused About Her Gender

by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

With her pink jacket and pearls, Hillary Clinton looked both feminine and professional when she visited the Norwegian Embassy this week.

And while fashion was likely the last thing on her mind, her choice of outfit could not have been more well-timed given that she was the subject of cutting criticism from Project Runway judge Tim Gunn.

In an interview with George Lopez, the fashion guru, accused Mrs Clinton of favouring unflattering mannish clothes, and that she should use her position to send a more positive message about American fashion.

He said: 'She's the Secretary of State, she's a former senator from New York, she's a former first lady. Why must she dress that way? 

'I think she's confused about her gender. Tim, maybe she's not the only one.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,"there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible". Linda's book, Don't Ever Call Me Ma'am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sex At Our Age – This You Have To Read

by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman 

Joan Price is talking out loud about a subject that is often ignored or ridiculed in our society: later-life sexuality. Naked at Our Age is a candid, straight-talking book addressing senior sexuality in all its colors—the challenges, the disappointments, and the surprises, as well as the delights and the love stories.

This book gives real-life people over fifty a voice to tell stories of their past and present sex lives, ask questions, and get straightforward advice and information from experts. No topic related to elder sexuality is off-limits.

Slut – Cougar – Labels That Inhibit Our Sexuality

Sex Is Loving Your Body

One of the biggest obstacles to a woman enjoying sex is a poor body image. Not being able to accept the way you look can leave you sleeping single in a double bed.

It's impossible to enjoy sex if you're more concerned about how you look than enjoying the pleasures of the flesh.  If you're not present in the moment you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.

It's hard to convince a woman that a man sees her differently that she sees herself.  They are not nearly as concerned with the flaws as you are.  They are turned on by your passion, your imagination, your enjoyment – not your perfect perky breasts.

Sex is too important not to give it your full attention. Love the pleasure that your body can provide and stop worrying how your butt looks from every possible angle