Cheating Spouse? – 9 Giveaway Signs

by Linda Franklin

Did you ever have that gut feeling that’s telling you your spouse is up to no good. That maybe he has got something going on the side.  That nauseating feeling of betrayal is so horrible that you may consciously choose not to pay attention to the warning signs.  Knowing for sure can get ugly and your life could be turned upside down.  But wait a minute….

Don’t you owe it to yourself to know the truth?  Your happiness, your self-esteem, your financial future are on the line here.  It’s up to you to protect yourself.  If you don’t know the telltale signs of a cheating spouse, these nine signs provide pretty conclusive proof.

1. The sex

Your hubbie wants more sex. His libido is over stimulated, but it’s just sex – there is no emotion attached.  Of course, the other side of that coin is that he doesn’t want sex at all.

2. His Appearance

A cheating husband will make sure his hair looks right, and will start taking more interest going to the gym. (He can even use that time to have that secret rendesvous..who knows).

3. More Time Away From Home

Work obligations are demanding more of his time.  And, add to that, more out-of-town tmeetings.

4. He takes up a time-consuming hobby that doesn’t involve you

This regular hobby can include the gym (if you can call that health hobby), the library, jogging or some kind of sport. The less you are interested in it, the more chance of him taking it.

5. His cell phone has become his constant companion

A cheating husband needs to take his cell phone everywhere (Yes even to the bathroom with the door locked from the inside). This is just in case the other woman call or it’s for him to contact that other woman.

6. He eats less, or he has stomach upset

Not so smart cheater will have dinner with his secret lover and won’t have want to eat when he gets home.

7. You catch some lies – white lies, big lies..

You realize he’s been lying and getting better at covering them up. He avoids eye contact with you, and won’t participate in any discussion about infidelity. And when you push him to the edge ready to prove that he’s lying, he’ll get defensive or very angry. 

8. Emails – New email address, new passwords, no history

He is using the computer a lot. When you walk in the room he minimises all windows – or closes them altogether. When he finally gets off the computer nothing is left in the history. All temporary cookies are deleted too.

9. Obvious evidence

This can be perfume on his laundry items, lipstick on his collar or shirt, or even the fact that he wants to do his own laundry. Hair can also be evidence (Like…you see blonde hair in his car, and your hair is black)

On top of these signs of infidelity, you’ll find that a cheating husband will stare off into space a lot, talking much less and losing interest in you and the family

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sex With A Cougar Woman

by Linda Franklin

I received the following email from a guy who was very frustrated with his cougar girlfriend.  She’s not interested in sex so he’s not the happiest cat in town.  I asked if I could share his story with you and he agreed –  so here it its. 

I have been dating a 45 year old menopausal woman for the last month. She is extremely fit and health conscious. She knows that her hormonal levels are very very low, but because she hasn’t had a sexual relationship in a long time she has neglected doing anything about it. 

I am a 40 year old man. I really like this woman a lot.  We have so much in common, and I would like the relationship to develop further.  Her kisses are amazing and make me melt - thats a bonus

But here’s the problem.  We have been 90% intimate on a half dozen occasions, and every time, I have found her responsiveness to be not just low, but practically a zero. I have been with two other women in their early 40′s that could climax easily multiple times, to my delight of course.

To be honest, I am quickly becoming  bored and frustrated at how bone dry and unresponsive she is. I have been able to bring her to climax orally, after 45 minutes of intense and wearisome stimulation.

 

What do I do? Is there a remedy? How can I broach the subject without hurting her on such a sensitive issue?

 

I hope I don’t sound like a jackass for having written such things…but I know that I am a good and tender lover.  Do I have to adjust my expectations when I’m with an older woman? 

 

Thanks, K

 

Dear K,

If sex is that difficult I would say goodbye. That might sound harsh but if you are a man who likes sex and you are not getting it from the woman you care about – well then she’s not for you.

 

Menopause is no reason for a woman to let her sex life die. Today, there are bio-identical hormones, creams and many lubricants that bring back the sizzle.  I would not hesitate suggesting that she see a doctor to talk about what would work best for her.  If she wants to experience good sex, she will do whatever it takes.    

 

If you like being with Cougar Women there is no reason to stop.  If a woman truly likes sex she is not going to let her age get in the way of her pleasure. 

 

You are not a jackass – this is an important issue that needs to be addressed sooner than later. 

 

Hope that helps.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,” there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

 

 

Sexy Feelings Heading South After 40?

by Dr. Jennifer Landa

It’s 10 p.m. and you’ve had a very busyl work day. You’ve finally had a chance to shower off that hectic mess of a day and pour yourself a small glass of red wine to sip while watching the early evening news. All of sudden, he walks in with his suggestive grin and you begin to cringe at the thought of  having to perform ANYTHING…especially sex!

His grin used to be all you ever needed to get in the mood.  But now, something’s different. The two of you have been so busy that you haven’t even seen or talked to each other all day, you’re feeling so tired that you can barely hold your wine glass up and (quite frankly) sex is the last thing on your mind for tonight…or any other night this month for that matter.

It seems that after years of having passionate sex, many women lose that “sexy feeling” once they get into their 40s. Is this just something we have to accept as a usual change in our bodies and lives? Will we ever have that same desire for sex we once had in our 20s and 30s?

Here’s the deal. In our younger years, sex drive has a lot to do with biology and our physical “urge to merge.” Our bodies have a need to procreate and make babies! As we enter our 40s, our hormone levels start to fluctuate because our bodies no longer feel that need. However, just because our reproductive years are ending doesn’t mean our sex life has to end also!

If you’re finding it harder and harder to get into the mood, that’s okay – it’s a natural stage in a woman’s life. That just means it’s probably time to reboot your libido because sex is definitely a very important part of a happy and healthy lifestyle.

I’ve recently written a book to help women everywhere reignite their sex lives and continue to live a healthy lifestyle. I talk about a passion for passion in my book titled Libido Reboot, (due out later this year) and I explain the many things women can do to help them suffering from a low sex drive.

However, I didn’t always have a passion for passion. I was only 28 years-old when I started losing my sex drive…only 28! Between working a very stressful 100 hours per week as an OB/GYN resident and being on the birth control pill (which drastically changed my hormones) I could have cared less about sex. Since then, I’ve obviously found some methods that got my libido going again.

Rejuvenating your libido is a multidimensional process. Be prepared to invest time, attention, and energy into this journey. Be prepared for a change in diet, a shift in physical activity patterns, and a new awareness of where your time and energy are best spent.

The most important thing to remember is that there’s no one definition of a healthy libido – it’s different for every woman.                                        

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,” there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Men’s Sexual Problems

 by Linda Franklin

Men’s sexual problems are more common than you think.  You usually think of a man  complaining that he’s not getting enough sex.  But, now the sex-starved women, the wives, who are speaking out.

There is a difference in how in how both sexes approach the sex issue.  When men aren’t getting sex they don’t think it’s has anything to do with them. When women are rejected in bed or any other place, they think it’s all about them.  They look for reasons they are not keeping their man happy.  Things like -  I’m too boring, too fat, not pretty enough or too old.  A woman always sees herself as the problem.  Men don’t do that.

The truth is, if your man isn’t interested in sex, he’s not alone.  After three decades of working as a couples therapist Michele Weiner Davis is convinced that low sexual desire in men is America’s best-kept secret.

Do you think you might be a sex-starved wife?

• Are you longing for more touch, sex and physical closeness?
• Have you been feeling hurt, depressed, resentful or angry about your partner’s lack of interest in sex?
• Have your feelings of resentment about your sex life prompted you to shut down emotionally?
• Out of anger, have you have you berated your partner or been mean-spirited?
• Do you wonder whether he really loves you?
• Do you question your attractiveness or femininity?
• Do you feel yourself building a wall around you to protect yourself from feelings of rejection?
• Have you grown increasingly exasperated that you haven’t been able to get your husband to understand what’s missing in your relationship?
• Are you feeling tempted to stray beyond your marriage to find companionship and sexual excitement?
• Have you been so desperate that you’ve even considered (or you are) having an affair? 
• Do you feel ashamed that your husband isn’t like other men?

If you’ve answered “yes” to several of these questions, it’s time to get help or at least read “Sex Starved Wives” by Ms. Davis.  There is help and most often the woman who has to get the ball rolling.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.