Republicans Are Having Better Sex

by Linda Franklin

Here’s a surprise.  Those tightly wound prim and proper conservatives are having a better time in the bedroom than their Liberal counterparts.  This information comes courtesy of a  survey of over 5,000 singles.

Match.com’s Singles in America poll revealed that although conservatives have less sex than Democrats, they climax almost every time, compared to just 40 per cent of the time for Democrats.

The reason behind this, Match says, is because it is not just their Republican politics that are conservative. Republicans are far more likely to be happy with marital sex. When choosing a partner, supporters of the GOP showed a pattern of looking for people of a similar socio-political background who believe in marriage.

Liberals on the other hand prioritized a sense of humor, individuality and equality in their relationships.

Led by an evolutionary biologist, a sex therapist, and experts at the Institute for Evolutionary Studies at Binghamton University, Singles in America is claimed to be the largest comprehensive study of singles ever. 

Results of the annual survey also showed that, contrary to society’s stereotyping, men are just as likely to fall in love as women and believe that a marriage should last forever.  In fact only 3 per cent of the surveyed males admitted to wanting to date multiple partners.

Anthropolgist Helen Fisher, the study’s advisor and author of Why Him? Why Her? told The Daily Beast: ‘I really don’t think Americans understand men.’

Her theory was proven further by the revelation that only 44 per cent of men, compared to 50 per cent of women, believed bad sex could end a relationship.

The female contingent also cited laziness, scruffiness, neediness and a lack of humour as relationship deal-breakers and said education and career success were important factors when picking a mate.

While modern women seemingly have a longer list of demands and boxes to tick in the partnership stakes, men, it appears are more willing to ignore their feelings for the sake of commitment.

31 per cent admitted they would consider marrying someone who ‘has everything they are looking for in a partner’ but with whom they weren’t in love, and 21per cent went even further confessing that they would commit to someone they weren’t sexually attracted to.

The one thing all singles agreed on? The economy has not affected their dating habits.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Friend With Benefits – Equal Benefits For Both?

by Linda Franklin

Friends with benefits or friends with “benies” or friends for cut – it’s all the same thing.  In theory FWB’s is a mutual practical arrangement for satisfying each others sexual needs without the usual bothersome expectations of love, romance, or in most cases – monogamy.

The thing is, FWB’s don’t always provide equal benefits for both parties involved.  But, nevertheless these arrangements are becoming more popular.

Most women, not all, too often confuse sex with love.  Whether or not they admit it, we are suckers for emotional attachment.  It’s hard for us to keep our hearts under wraps when we are putting ourselves in such a vulnerable position.  Even the hard-hearted-hannahs do get their hearts broken.  It’s painful knowing we don’t rank high on our lover’s priority list. We are a convenience when time permits.

Here’s a couple of reasons people decide to switch from being just friends to FWB’s:

• both agree from there is no emotional attachment so there is no pie-in-the-sky expectations
• you have recently come out of a breakup or a divorce are ready to sex, but not a relationship

If you are considering the switch, ask yourself these tought questions:

• Is this FWB relationship just a rest stop on the way to something better?
• Is this relationship one that makes me happy?
• Is this all I can expect at my age?

I suppose the success of an FWB relationship depends completely on the two people involved and the ground rules they establish. For some it may be just what the doctor ordered, while for others just an another bump on an already hazardous emotional roller-coaster.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Number One Reason People Get Divorced

By Linda Franklin 

Falling out of love is the new number one reason couples are divorcing according to Your Tango. After doing a survey of divorced or divorcing couples, infidelity has now been bumped down to number two.  Cheating had been number one for the eight years.

Essentially, the survey has found that couples are more willing to work through a partner’s sexual indiscretions than they are through a dry, loveless relationship. And who can blame them?

In the old days, there weren’t any options and women didn’t have their own incomes. Things have changed with the two income household among other things. I’ve always questioned whether or not women’s resolve to stay in a sexually decrepit marriage was due to the the idealistic reasons they posed. Men, on the other hand, have gone to mistresses and sex workers to satisfy their needs, seeing that as their right– their entitlement. The show Mad Men on AMC does a great job displaying this.

Today more couple are rethinking sex’s role in a relationship. They’re spending more time getting better at it and the other things that make it great and communication smooth.  They’re taking sex more seriously. . When they do, it makes them wake up one day and say things like, “I’m falling in low with my husband/wife all over again”.

Sustainable great sex, is a major untapped resource to refuel the state of being in love. 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sexy, Sensual Women Are Everywhere

Lawrence Lanoff is a tantric meditation master. He's a social-satirist-sex-pundit, who questions beliefs and myths. He writes on sex, science, culture, and anything that crosses his mind and body.  He wrote this blog that I wanted to share with you.  Just in case you ever doubt your own sexuality keep reading. Lawrence is right on.

Last week, the TV show The Doctors did a segment on the sex-drive-differences between men and women. Their theories were comical. Mainly because they continue to look at sex through stereotypical frames and filters.

The out worn idea: men want lots of sex. Women don’t.

Infidelity On The Rise – So What Else Is New?

Infidelity is on the rise but that comes as no surprise does it?  Have you ever cheated or even thought of cheating on your significant other?   Even if you did you probably wouldn't go around broadcasting it.  That's why it's almost impossible to get accurate data about just how many people are actually indulging in the pleasures of the afternoon delight.

New studies do suggest that infidelity is alive and well, particularly among older men and young couples. And, women are closing the adultery gap: younger women appear to be cheating on their spouses in the same numbers as their male counterparts.  I'm not going to bore with the numbers, but if you're interested you can read Tara Parker Pope's  New York Times article on the subject.

The change in women's fidelity is creating the most buzz..  Men cheat and brag about it – women tend to lie about it to everybody including themselves.  Men want to think women don’t cheat, and women want men to think they don’t cheat, and therefore both sexes have been playing these silly game with each other forever. 

The question that keeps cropping up in my mind is are we programmed  to be monogamous?  Personally I don't think so – the pleasures of the flesh are mighty powerful.