Women have been taught that achieving orgasm is the ultimate sexual experience. But what happens when “getting there” seems downright impossible? Dr. Michael L. Krychman, Medical Director of Sexual Medicine Hoag Hospital and Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine, guides all of us Real Cougars on what to when you feel like throwing in the towel.
Dr. Krychman assures us that difficulty in achieving orgasm is not an uncommon problem. Women often notice that the intensity of their orgasm has diminished or that it takes longer to achieve. There are clear solutions that can be implemented in order to regain the "the orgasmic WOW factor".
The first step, is getting a medical evaluation. Sometimes there are underlying medical conditions that may be hindering the clitoral blood flow. These could range from undiagnosed diabetes, Parkinson’s, hypertension, high cholesterol and all have been known to impact overall orgasmic response.
We hear it all the time - sex has lost it's sizzle. In fact, loss of sexual desire has reached reached epidemic proportions in this country. That's why Mary and I recently sponsored a symposium inviting health editors of leading consumer publications to hear the latest findings released by internationally recognized sexual health, wellness and relationship experts. Their cutting-edge research revealed some interesting reasons why Americans are experiencing, what Dr.Mehmet Oz has identified as a “sexual famine”.
Dr. Susan Kellogg, internationally recognized sex and wellness authority, explored the neurochemistry behind sexual response. According to Kellogg, new experiences in which we engage in with partners (including activities that may be new or induce excitement or a sense of quasi-danger) can help to activate chemicals in the brain….notably dopamine and norepineprine. The result is that couples feel more romantically exhilarated. Another chemical..oxytocin…generally released upon sexual stimulation and orgasm….can heighten romantic and sexual response, too.
In the most recent national sex study published released in September, the truth about women and orgasms was revealed. Men’s perceptions of women reaching orgasm did not match reality. Women were having fewer orgasms than men imagined.
You know, if you've been reading my blogs, that I have a big gripe – and that is the existing double standard which is so unfair to women. Many would argue that it doesn't exist, but it really does and it's keeping important issues out of the public spotlight. But, yesterday there was big breakthrough. The outdated double standard was outed by none other than The New York Times.
Abby Ellin at Times wrote a fabulous article on my new blog sexperts Mary Jaensch, CEO and Rachel Braun Scherl, President of Semprae. They are the fabulous twosome who manufacture Zestra, the all natural product that enhances a women's sexual pleasure. This is an article you need to read because it highlights the double standard at work – and it ain't pretty.