Sex With A Cougar Woman

by Linda Franklin

I received the following email from a guy who was very frustrated with his cougar girlfriend.  She’s not interested in sex so he’s not the happiest cat in town.  I asked if I could share his story with you and he agreed –  so here it its. 

I have been dating a 45 year old menopausal woman for the last month. She is extremely fit and health conscious. She knows that her hormonal levels are very very low, but because she hasn’t had a sexual relationship in a long time she has neglected doing anything about it. 

I am a 40 year old man. I really like this woman a lot.  We have so much in common, and I would like the relationship to develop further.  Her kisses are amazing and make me melt - thats a bonus

But here’s the problem.  We have been 90% intimate on a half dozen occasions, and every time, I have found her responsiveness to be not just low, but practically a zero. I have been with two other women in their early 40′s that could climax easily multiple times, to my delight of course.

To be honest, I am quickly becoming  bored and frustrated at how bone dry and unresponsive she is. I have been able to bring her to climax orally, after 45 minutes of intense and wearisome stimulation.

 

What do I do? Is there a remedy? How can I broach the subject without hurting her on such a sensitive issue?

 

I hope I don’t sound like a jackass for having written such things…but I know that I am a good and tender lover.  Do I have to adjust my expectations when I’m with an older woman? 

 

Thanks, K

 

Dear K,

If sex is that difficult I would say goodbye. That might sound harsh but if you are a man who likes sex and you are not getting it from the woman you care about – well then she’s not for you.

 

Menopause is no reason for a woman to let her sex life die. Today, there are bio-identical hormones, creams and many lubricants that bring back the sizzle.  I would not hesitate suggesting that she see a doctor to talk about what would work best for her.  If she wants to experience good sex, she will do whatever it takes.    

 

If you like being with Cougar Women there is no reason to stop.  If a woman truly likes sex she is not going to let her age get in the way of her pleasure. 

 

You are not a jackass – this is an important issue that needs to be addressed sooner than later. 

 

Hope that helps.

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,” there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

 

 

Men’s Sexual Problems

 by Linda Franklin

Men’s sexual problems are more common than you think.  You usually think of a man  complaining that he’s not getting enough sex.  But, now the sex-starved women, the wives, who are speaking out.

There is a difference in how in how both sexes approach the sex issue.  When men aren’t getting sex they don’t think it’s has anything to do with them. When women are rejected in bed or any other place, they think it’s all about them.  They look for reasons they are not keeping their man happy.  Things like -  I’m too boring, too fat, not pretty enough or too old.  A woman always sees herself as the problem.  Men don’t do that.

The truth is, if your man isn’t interested in sex, he’s not alone.  After three decades of working as a couples therapist Michele Weiner Davis is convinced that low sexual desire in men is America’s best-kept secret.

Do you think you might be a sex-starved wife?

• Are you longing for more touch, sex and physical closeness?
• Have you been feeling hurt, depressed, resentful or angry about your partner’s lack of interest in sex?
• Have your feelings of resentment about your sex life prompted you to shut down emotionally?
• Out of anger, have you have you berated your partner or been mean-spirited?
• Do you wonder whether he really loves you?
• Do you question your attractiveness or femininity?
• Do you feel yourself building a wall around you to protect yourself from feelings of rejection?
• Have you grown increasingly exasperated that you haven’t been able to get your husband to understand what’s missing in your relationship?
• Are you feeling tempted to stray beyond your marriage to find companionship and sexual excitement?
• Have you been so desperate that you’ve even considered (or you are) having an affair? 
• Do you feel ashamed that your husband isn’t like other men?

If you’ve answered “yes” to several of these questions, it’s time to get help or at least read “Sex Starved Wives” by Ms. Davis.  There is help and most often the woman who has to get the ball rolling.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

Frustrated Man Wonders Is Sex Different With Cougar Women?

Hi Linda,

I have been dating a 45 year old menopausal woman for the last month. She is extremely fit and health conscious. She knows that her hormonal levels are very very low, but because she hasn’t had a sexual relationship in a long time she has neglected doing anything about it.

 

 

I am a 40 year old man. I really like this woman a lot.  We have so much in common, and I would like the relationship to develop further.  Her kisses are amazing and make me melt - thats a bonus

But here’s the problem.  We have been 90% intimate on a half dozen occasions, and every time, I have found her responsiveness to be not just low, but practically a zero. I have been with two other women in their early 40′s that could climax easily multiple times to my delight of course.

But with this woman, I am downright bored and frustrated at how bone dry and unresponsive she is. I have been able to bring her to climax orally, after 45 minutes of intense and wearisome stimulation.

 

What do I do? Is there a remedy? How can I broach the subject without hurting her on such a sensitive issue?

 

I hope I don’t sound like a jackass for having written such things…but I know that I am a good and tender lover.  Do I have to adjust my expectations when I’m with an older woman? 

 

Thanks, K

 

Dear K,

If sex is that difficult I would say goodbye. That might sound harsh but if you are a man who likes sex and you are not getting it from the woman you care about – well then she’s not for you.

 

Menopause is no reason for a woman to let her sex life die. Today, there are bio-identical hormones, creams and many lubricants that bring back the ache and the sizzle.  I would not hesitate suggesting that she see a doctor to talk about what would work best for her.  If she wants to experience good sex, she will do whatever it takes.    

 

If you like being with Cougar Women there is no reason to stop.  If a woman truly likes sex she is not going to let her age get in the way of her pleasure. 

 

You are not a jackass – this is an important issue that needs to be addressed sooner than later. 

 

Hope that helps.

 

Linda